Need advice on seperation from gf

[youngman]

My gf and I just recently broke up, although this is not the first, I strongly believe that it is the last. We had been together for 5 years prior to this, there were rocky moments, and there were good moments. We've endured many things together and have a beautiful 3yr old daughter.

I still love her, but I know that she isn't right for me, I don't think I'm the person that she is looking for as well. Over the 5 years, I'd say that I have changed a lot, I dress more mature and not like a hood rat. She still is into guys that dress like they just walked off of a rap video. I'm working all the time, this is because I need to raise money for ourselves and also because she doesn't work. We hardly ever get to spend anytime with each other and when we do, she seems to not enjoy it. She is always out late chilling with her friends. My birthday had just passed and it was a big disappointment. Based on what I have seen from her text messages and facebook and what not, I think there is another guy that she wants to get involved with. I usually am right about these things and based on the evidence, I'm almost 100%. She was actually about to spend my birthday with this guy.

Anyways, I guess what I'm trying to say is, what advice do you guys have to offer to me in this kind of situation? I really still have feelings for her and sometimes it seems she does too, but I know, down the road, maybe tomorrow, maybe next week, maybe next month, we would just end up breaking up again. I don't want to have to go through this over and over again but I just can't stop loving her.

Please help.

[JAC]

Dump her, then sleep with her sister or best friend.

No worries about reconciliation.

[molala]

My gf and I just recently broke up, although this is not the first, I strongly believe that it is the last. We had been together for 5 years prior to this, there were rocky moments, and there were good moments. We've endured many things together and have a beautiful 3yr old daughter.

I still love her, but I know that she isn't right for me, I don't think I'm the person that she is looking for as well. Over the 5 years, I'd say that I have changed a lot, I dress more mature and not like a hood rat. She still is into guys that dress like they just walked off of a rap video. I'm working all the time, this is because I need to raise money for ourselves and also because she doesn't work. We hardly ever get to spend anytime with each other and when we do, she seems to not enjoy it. She is always out late chilling with her friends. My birthday had just passed and it was a big disappointment. Based on what I have seen from her text messages and facebook and what not, I think there is another guy that she wants to get involved with. I usually am right about these things and based on the evidence, I'm almost 100%. She was actually about to spend my birthday with this guy.

Anyways, I guess what I'm trying to say is, what advice do you guys have to offer to me in this kind of situation? I really still have feelings for her and sometimes it seems she does too, but I know, down the road, maybe tomorrow, maybe next week, maybe next month, we would just end up breaking up again. I don't want to have to go through this over and over again but I just can't stop loving her.

Please help.

welcome back GWB!

[corrupt123]

Split up, but keep in touch. When she comes around, give it another shot. If she doesn't, at least you'll know you made the right choice.

[blue mountain raider]

so 5 yrs dating and a kid but no marriage?

[originalnutta]

cut all contact (facebook, phone, email etc etc.)

or be a whiny ***** and keep in touch with her.

[dragon_drift]

Dump her, then sleep with her sister or best friend.

No worries about reconciliation.

+1, dump her. you even said she isn't right for you. you deserve better than her.

[jcoltage]

Take your kid you seem to be heading in the right direction and cut the anchor she is and let her hang out in the hood.

[Dimension]

welcome back GWB!

Haha, too funny. :lol:

Take your kid you seem to be heading in the right direction and cut the anchor she is and let her hang out in the hood.

Good answer.

[molala]

for real that no one realize OP is trolling?

he said his birthday just passed with great dissapointment and he have a feeling that his gf is about to spend his upcoming birthday with another guy?

[mingyang]

1st post = trolling

[dealon]

If you plan on breaking up, go speak to a family lawyer. He/She can then give you advice on what the break-up may cost you (e.g. spousal support and child support).

You will then also know HOW you should plan the break up so that you don't lose control over your home or seeing your child, etc.

Once you make a decision about your emotional relationship, think about the legal relationship you have. Go see a lawyer and then implement your decision accordingly!

Regardless,hang in there. Its not easy going through a break up---of any kind. Hope you find some comfort.

[youngman]

Do you guys believe in friendship after relationship? Is it ever awkward? I hope that I would still be able to be friends with her, she is the mother of our daughter after all.

[Bazooka Joe]

welcome back GWB!

+1

:lol:

[goJays]

the part where the OP says he "I think there is another guy that she wants to get involved with. I usually am right about these things" shows how soft he is and how the girl(s) pwns him (could be the same girl pwning him over and over). the worst part of it all, he says he realizes, but is still the fool..)

my advice is to grow some balls, then leave her. problem is not her, but its u for being a pussy.

[goJays]

lets all feel bad for the little daughter and for the 2 people creating such a situation.

[TheRide]

Oh btw, hood rat is a girl.

[controlyar]

http://msp221.photobucket.com/albums/dd264/thebitterlegion/Macros/Gifs/Jackson_popcorn.gif

[youngman]

my advice is to grow some balls, then leave her. problem is not her, but its u for being a pussy.

I think this is actually useful.

Oh btw, hood rat is a girl.

Sorry I meant Hoodlum.

[Musiq Soulchild]

let me be the first one to say,

pics or it never happened.

[youngman]

let me be the first one to say,

pics or it never happened.

pics of what? my daughter?

[Cheapo-Findo]

maybe you can both see relationship counseling

[youngman]

maybe you can both see relationship counseling
That certainly is a possibility, however, does it work? Will it help both of us change our current habits?

[KorruptioN]

George W. Bush.

[gretzky99]

Alvito.

[Musiq Soulchild]

pics of what? my daughter?

sure anything that proves your point.

Edit: Whats with all these GF threads all of a sudden?

[dre145]

That certainly is a possibility, however, does it work? Will it help both of us change our current habits?

yes, it will help you realize that you need to raise your child while your gf goes out to the "hood" for a night of fun. Then if your lucky she'll pass on anything and everything she picked up from them hood rats.

[CanadianMike]

some trolls never hide their identities well.....:lol:

[wqzmbshz]

dump her thats the only way to go. And initiating troubles with the guy is not going to solve a thing: You can not control a person's mind. So let free of your gf and let her pursue her happiness. That is the greatest love ever in this world. At the mean time, start looking for new!!

[-Jatt-]

George W. Bush.

:arrowu: :arrowu: :arrowu:

[Shaner]

for real that no one realize OP is trolling?

he said his birthday just passed with great dissapointment and he have a feeling that his gf is about to spend his upcoming birthday with another guy?

Read the post again, that's not what he said at all.

To the OP, I'm going to assume you're not a troll, because I have no reason to think otherwise. Assuming this is legit, then ignore most of the posts on the first page.

You can't stop all communication with her, you two have a child together, constant communication is a must. You two also need to establish a custody agreement. I suggest paying a small fee and getting a lawyer to draft something up for you, that way if she ever takes you to court, you'll have something in writing.

I also strongly suggest not taking this girl back, ever! If she's willing to cheat on you once, it's likely she'll cheat on you again in the future. You also don't need the trouble she may bring upon you by her associating with young punks. Whatever you do, don't take her back. You'll miss her at first, and you'll want her back at some point, but wait it out, the feelings will pass and you'll be better off in the end.

[whampoa]

Lest guess OP age, shall we ... 27 or 41?

Maybe it all depends on the alignment of the moon, sun and ocean tide.

[molala]

Read the post again, that's not what he said at all.


My gf and I just recently broke up, although this is not the first, I strongly believe that it is the last. We had been together for 5 years prior to this, there were rocky moments, and there were good moments. We've endured many things together and have a beautiful 3yr old daughter.

I still love her, but I know that she isn't right for me, I don't think I'm the person that she is looking for as well. Over the 5 years, I'd say that I have changed a lot, I dress more mature and not like a hood rat. She still is into guys that dress like they just walked off of a rap video. I'm working all the time, this is because I need to raise money for ourselves and also because she doesn't work. We hardly ever get to spend anytime with each other and when we do, she seems to not enjoy it. She is always out late chilling with her friends. My birthday had just passed and it was a big disappointment. Based on what I have seen from her text messages and facebook and what not, I think there is another guy that she wants to get involved with. I usually am right about these things and based on the evidence, I'm almost 100%. She was actually about to spend my birthday with this guy.

Anyways, I guess what I'm trying to say is, what advice do you guys have to offer to me in this kind of situation? I really still have feelings for her and sometimes it seems she does too, but I know, down the road, maybe tomorrow, maybe next week, maybe next month, we would just end up breaking up again. I don't want to have to go through this over and over again but I just can't stop loving her.

Please help.

no?

[FearSonic]

no?

My birthday had just passed and it was a big disappointment. Based on what I have seen from her text messages and facebook and what not, I think there is another guy that she wants to get involved with. I usually am right about these things and based on the evidence, I'm almost 100%. She was actually about to spend my birthday with this guy.



Reading comprehension please.

[molala]

My birthday had just passed and it was a big disappointment. Based on what I have seen from her text messages and facebook and what not, I think there is another guy that she wants to get involved with. I usually am right about these things and based on the evidence, I'm almost 100%. She was actually about to spend my birthday with this guy.



Reading comprehension please.

sorry..my bad..but it still doesn't stop makes me think that it's GWB trolling on here...

[CheapScotsman]

Re-read Shaner's and DealOn's posts ... given that she hasn't been working and you have been, you could be liable for both child support and spousal support. Better go see a lawyer ASAP.

[CSK'sMom]

I'll echo the lawyer comments. I'll also add start keeping a diary of all the time(s) you are your daughter's care provider. If she's that into the party scene a dairy could be your best defense down the road. I'd also recommend that you start a paper trail when you do give her money for child support now and till it goes to court. If you don't and can't prove it child support could be ordered retroactively. If she doesn't accept child support put it in a seperate account till it's dealt with legally. And above all else, because you have a child with her, try to stay on the best terms possible that you can. You two are going to have to see each other and co-parent for at the very least the next 15 years and you will see each other for the rest of your lives. You have a child in common so there is no changing that fact.

[Shaner]

One more thing, I would fight hard for custody of your child. If she gets full custody, you're going to get raped by child support payments, mostly because of the fact that she isn't working, and any half decent dirtbag, I mean lawyer, will play it up in court that she can't work because of parental responsibilities. You will get taken to the cleaners financially.

I work with two guys who pay close to $1500 per month in child support payments, which is almost half their salary.

[mgronqui]

Don't you just love those girls that want those "bad boys" so they can treat them like ****? Really perverse and twisted :lol:

[nickia]

Can't help you much but I wish you good luck.:)

[skewed]

welcome back GWB!


+20

[Rekognize]

Dump her, then sleep with her sister or best friend.

No worries about reconciliation.

Amen brother

http://msp221.photobucket.com/albums/dd264/thebitterlegion/Macros/Gifs/Jackson_popcorn.gif

lol

[help_questions]

+1 to seeing a lawyer....you want to make sure that all custody arrangements go in your favour.....supporting whatever you want. also, start documenting stuff, and maybe see any lawyer that she might see, (like Tony Soprano did)....bottom line.....you seem to be better for your daughter, so make sure you are controlling custody arrangements.....

[thelefteyeguy]

welcome back GWB!

+21
lol...Aug 5, 2008 ...right on

[joeym]

any pic of the gf?:)

[IBOPM]

welcome back GWB!

lol that is the first thing I thought when I read the first post.

[KorruptioN]

I'm not sure why this is still open.

[desi_eng]

I'm not sure why this is still open.

I think the mods were just waiting for you to request it before they locked it up. :lol:

[molala]

I'm not sure why this is still open.

there's nothing wrong with it.............................yet

[Rehan]

It wasn't GWB.

There have been a few good responses from some of the mature members here, and I think that should be good enough for the OP.

Locked.