Am I suppose to bring a gift for an engagement party? Another gift for wedding???

[issey]

Just a quick question. I got invited to an engagement party which I plan to attend. Do I have to bring a gift to an engagement party? It doesn't feel right to show up empty handed but it ends up being very costly when I also have to bring a gift for the wedding. Multiple weddings a year will definitely add up. I have heard that if you bring a gift to the engagement party then it's not necessary to bring one for the wedding. Is that true?

[Cheapo-Findo]

1. No
2. Yes

[jumbojones]

Depends on how far the two are apart, if they are within the same year I would say no, if not I would say yes. We received for both, but we had a long engagement too.

[Joanie]

what i usually do is come up with a maximum i would spend on a wedding and divide it up amongst all the parties.

hell, i had a friend with engagement party / bridal shower / bachelorette / stag n stagette / wedding / tea ceremony.

if i had to give for everything, i will be broke. it is ridiculous IMHO to hv so many parties for what is technically one event. if they want to hold lots of extravagant parties, then it is their choice. but it is our choice to (a) go or not go and (b) if we go, how much to give.

[OceanDrop]

We had the same question recently...asked my mom and her friends, and they said "no" to bringing a gift for the engagement party. However, when we got there, we were the only ones not to bring gifts :o

[molala]

bring a small gift to the engagement party and save the big part to the wedding!

[Byrns]

Bring a something small to the engagement party (wine?) and save the bigger gift for the wedding.

[JeVartan]

You might also be invited to the shower so don't forget that people usually bring a gift to that too.

As many others have mentioned, I usually do a "small" gift for engagement party, shower and then a big gift aka cash for the wedding.

[issey]

Thanks for the replies. I was thinking of bringing something small for the engagement and then a cheque for the big day..but how much for each? I usually go $150-200/person