Grown Up Stuff.. You Never Know How Good You Had It Until its Gone

[samberkun]

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[ullyeus]

In another couple of years you will grow up even more and realize what a whiny ***** you sounded like. She won't be the end of the world...there will be plenty of more heartbreaks and girls along the way.

[GangStarr]

www.blogspot.com

[HBP]

It's a good story. Forget all the haters that will tell you this doesn't belong here. Thanks for the post.

[danfromwaterloo]

Hey, i browse site a lot but dont post much. Anyway here to share a story and some advise that i hope will help others, heres my story.

I knew this girl. We went to high school together from grade 8 to 12, around grade 10 i started talking to her a bit. A lot of the girls i knew got drunk all the time and got around, this girl was different. She was drop dead beautiful, smart funny and the nicest person I have ever met.

So we started hanging out more and more and after like a year i finally made a move and we started going out. It was the best years of my life.....she was only person i trusted and was my best friend.

Then University Came and we ended up going to same school, didn't really plan on it but it turned out that way. Anyway all my friends and even her parents were saying that we should break up since it is university cause it will be to hard and that is where everyone goes and hooks up with everyone... meet new people. So foolishly 3 days in i break up with her. Thinking im doing the right thing.

We still keep hooking up though but less and less and finally stop 2 month later due to both of us being so busy. Anyway I go around, meet new girls hook up with some just as pretty or more than her, but still they didnt compare.

Now Today I realize that I am still madly in love with here. I tried to hide what i felt and convince myself I didnt miss her but i thought about her everyday since september. I tried to get her back last night but I had no luck, and sadly i dont think i will ever have that chance again.

The Moral of the story is not think how things could be better when they are already good. Many guys and girls think they could be better off with or without someone eles. But when you realize how good it was when it's gone, its the most painful feeling in the world. Seriously if you find that someone that you love and is your bestfriend... dont let them go, or you will become heartbroken like me.

Your first real girlfriend will linger in your memory for the rest of your life - it's just a fact of your first romance. They're the ones who have introduced you to all these new feelings and experiences.

Everybody has a sad story about the one that got away ESPECIALLY the first one. If it's meant to be, you'll get back together. If not, it never was to be.

[rollen]

why put this on a blog, when you can have more readers from the entire RFD community! :lol: :lol:

[ji2o0k]

this thread is useless without pics of your gf........

[burnt_toast]

this thread is useless without pics of your gf........

+1 :lol:

[ricoboxing]

how can we know if she's really that pretty?

no pics = /thread

[AmberMoon]

I tell my daughter that boys will come and go and that trying to fall in love with someone at such a young age is not healthy, that she needs to see a diverse selection of guys and that will allow her to base what she wants out of someone. As I tell her, if you have only known one guy how are you suppose to compare and know whats out there.

Now in your situation you are a bit older and have dated more then a handful of people i assume. If you truly love someone and they do not love you in return then maybe it was not ment to be. Maybe having her in your heart opens the way for the true Mrs. Right who is right around the corner. I believe everything happens for a reason and the actions you take today effect what happens to you tomorrow.

Tell her how you feel and let her know that understand that your time together may have passed but you wanted to let her know your feelings regardless and then cherish your friendship as they are the hardest to keep close

[UrbanPoet]

stuff like this always leads to at least one night of casual... O_O
romance

[smirnoff]

You said you tried to get her back. So what did you do.

[yao416]

Host then post :|

[samberkun]

It was one of those cases where we met to early in life. I broke up with her for many dumb reasons, none of them that i believed deep down. I felt that we had to because i wanted to spend the rest of my life with this girl and i didnt feel it was possible to go from high school and get through the college and so years like that. Its sad though everyday i kick myself for doing it. Just dont make the same mistake I did. Other girls like me but i just cant get myself over her.

[corrupt123]

Take up drinking.

[mrG]

It was one of those cases where we met to early in life. I broke up with her for many dumb reasons, none of them that i believed deep down. I felt that we had to because i wanted to spend the rest of my life with this girl and i didnt feel it was possible to go from high school and get through the college and so years like that. Its sad though everyday i kick myself for doing it. Just dont make the same mistake I did. Other girls like me but i just cant get myself over her.

Don't give up. Is she with anyone right now? Now that you guys have drifted apart, just try to see her more often, even if it's just as a friend. She might have rejected you because she thought you were just playing with her feelings or something.. let her know how much she means!

[stealth]

"Grown up stuff"? Sounds more like puppy love.
Anyways, people often cling to their early loves. You need to be with different people, experience different things, to find out who you are. Obviously your/her parents even saw this. Go with it, and stop obsessing.


The only real wisdom from experience that I can pass along, is take people for what they are, and in time you'll see that for the most part, one girl isnt "better" than others, its all about different traits and characteristics, and which are the best fit for you (at the time). Before I got married, I had several long term gf's (3 of which I saw for over 2 years each, and in 2 cases even lived together for awhile). Looking back, I wouldnt say any were better or worse than the others, they each had their own pros and cons, and it took me a while to find one who's pros and cons worked best with my own. You may be surprised with what you learn on this journey, so embrace it and dont be afraid of not finding anyone "as good", or being alone.
Winter sucks. Once warm weathe rolls around and they start wearing skirts again, you'll forget all about what ails you now :)

[andrew2good4u]

In another couple of years you will grow up even more and realize what a whiny ***** you sounded like. She won't be the end of the world...there will be plenty of more heartbreaks and girls along the way.

He speaks tha truth. A little harsh, but the truth.

and pics = proof..

lol im just teasing you but dont beat urself up man.

There are tons of women in this world. Not too many good ones, but you should be able to find another.

For now, enjoy being single man. Go out, have fun , meet people and chill with your boys

[Mulder and Scully]

Now Today I realize that I am still madly in love with here. I tried to hide what i felt and convince myself I didnt miss her but i thought about her everyday since september. I tried to get her back last night but I had no luck, and sadly i dont think i will ever have that chance again.

What's stopping you from trying again? I mean, don't be a stalker about it (seriously for you other people reading this -- don't be that guy! don't be a stalker!) but ask yourself is this worth fighting for. If it is then make it happen but at the same time know when it's a lost cause. Just having friendship isn't a bad thing either.

[sexpuppet6000]

this is grown up stuff?

[Setz]

www.blogspot.com

run C:/tru.dat

[brendonp]

Hey, i browse site a lot but dont post much. Anyway here to share a story and some advise that i hope will help others, heres my story.

Life's sometimes a bit crazy, but here's the flip side -

I actually tried to stay together /w my high school girlfriend through the first bit of university. Didn't work out and was pretty miserable (we were also at seperate schools - Waterloo/York. Not far away, but still a pain to travel if you don't have a car.

We still spoke occasionally throughout university, and an odd thing happened; we actually got back together after school and
we've now been married for 6 years and have a beautiful daughter. Now here's the strange part; I don't think that we would be married now if we tried to stick it out through university, or if we had any plan to try to get back together later on. We each honestly felt that the "end" was really the "end". Having some time away to do your own thing really broadens your horizons and gives you a different set of experiences which does allow you to see the other person differently - or realize what you do/did love about them.

Hey, I sound like a girl! ;)

Brendon

[bokep]

this is grown up stuff? quit whining.

[calcuu]

if this is grown up stuff...you need to grow more.

[Ebola]

When you're young you see everything as black and white , it's either this or that.

As you mature you realise everything is complicated, nothing is ever that easy as right and wrong, so take the good while you can get it, and cut and run if feasible if things start to go sideways on you.

[1yellowdog]

It gets worse as you get older.
I went back to find who I thought was my true love and found out they were dead. That was kind of mind blowing at the time.>:(

[mmmken]

It's a good story. Forget all the haters that will tell you this doesn't belong here. Thanks for the post.

+1. Seems like there's a lot of haters here.

Life's sometimes a bit crazy, but here's the flip side -

I actually tried to stay together /w my high school girlfriend through the first bit of university. Didn't work out and was pretty miserable (we were also at seperate schools - Waterloo/York. Not far away, but still a pain to travel if you don't have a car.

We still spoke occasionally throughout university, and an odd thing happened; we actually got back together after school and
we've now been married for 6 years and have a beautiful daughter. Now here's the strange part; I don't think that we would be married now if we tried to stick it out through university, or if we had any plan to try to get back together later on. We each honestly felt that the "end" was really the "end". Having some time away to do your own thing really broadens your horizons and gives you a different set of experiences which does allow you to see the other person differently - or realize what you do/did love about them.

Hey, I sound like a girl! ;)

Brendon

Cute story, and thanks.

[obernewtyn]

In another couple of years you will grow up even more and realize what a whiny ***** you sounded like. She won't be the end of the world...there will be plenty of more heartbreaks and girls along the way.

That made me laugh out loud.


Ok seriously. Sometimes with love, you have to be patient...and if she really loves you, things will work out at the end. (But don't expect this and wait for it to happen). If it was meant to be then it's meant to be. If things aren't going your way...don't stress yourself out. Focus on moving forward with your life. You are only hurting yourself by thinking about the past.

Well in my last relationship...at the end, I found out she does love me and she tried to come back. Kept calling me over 10 times a day but i didn't pick up until a week after and I told her I don't want to get back because of what she did to me and stop calling. My reason was cuz she's not the person i fell in love when we first met. She changed to a person I don't want to be with.

I don't know, I hope my experience can help you out.

[weedb0y]

That made me laugh out loud.


Ok seriously. Sometimes with love, you have to be patient...and if she really loves you, things will work out at the end. (But don't expect this and wait for it to happen). If it was meant to be then it's meant to be. If things aren't going your way...don't stress yourself out. Focus on moving forward with your life. You are only hurting yourself by thinking about the past.

Well in my last relationship...at the end, I found out she does love me and she tried to come back. Kept calling me over 10 times a day but i didn't pick up until a week after and I told her I don't want to get back because of what she did to me and stop calling. My reason was cuz she's not the person i fell in love when we first met. She changed to a person I don't want to be with.

I don't know, I hope my experience can help you out.

What would you have done if you were married to her? Be part of the typical 50% divorce rate?

[blexann]

Hey, i browse site a lot but dont post much. Anyway here to share a story and some advise that i hope will help others, heres my story.

I knew this girl. We went to high school together from grade 8 to 12, around grade 10 i started talking to her a bit. A lot of the girls i knew got drunk all the time and got around, this girl was different. She was drop dead beautiful, smart funny and the nicest person I have ever met.

So we started hanging out more and more and after like a year i finally made a move and we started going out. It was the best years of my life.....she was only person i trusted and was my best friend.

Then University Came and we ended up going to same school, didn't really plan on it but it turned out that way. Anyway all my friends and even her parents were saying that we should break up since it is university cause it will be to hard and that is where everyone goes and hooks up with everyone... meet new people. So foolishly 3 days in i break up with her. Thinking im doing the right thing.

We still keep hooking up though but less and less and finally stop 2 month later due to both of us being so busy. Anyway I go around, meet new girls hook up with some just as pretty or more than her, but still they didnt compare.

Now Today I realize that I am still madly in love with here. I tried to hide what i felt and convince myself I didnt miss her but i thought about her everyday since september. I tried to get her back last night but I had no luck, and sadly i dont think i will ever have that chance again.

The Moral of the story is not think how things could be better when they are already good. Many guys and girls think they could be better off with or without someone eles. But when you realize how good it was when it's gone, its the most painful feeling in the world. Seriously if you find that someone that you love and is your bestfriend... dont let them go, or you will become heartbroken like me.

man. by your title I thought you lost your dick or something

[sleepyguy]

i'm such a geek that i found that funny :)

run C:/tru.dat

[samberkun]

nt/

[Setz]

i'm such a geek that i found that funny :)


I'm glad my humor is appreciated. :)

[nahim.a.a]

Seriously dude, you broke up with her because you went to university?

And your parents said you should break up because people hook up in university? wtf man, whats the matter with you?

That's crazy, because if you really loved her you would have not broken up with her over such a silly reason.

[cheeseshredder]

alright so LISTEN TO THIS!

The guy she is messing with now, pretty much going out.... he gave me his email password like in oct. for some project i did for him at school. So anyway i went on windows xp... which i never really use cause i have a mac and went onto my email and his popped up, guess it got saved. Anyone i curiously look at some emails he has been sending in the last week to 4 different girls from back home where he lives. And he has told everyone of them that he loves them and wants to get back together with them. Should I tell my ex girlfriend, i dont even want her back really or anything its just i feel bad for her..... what should i do

lol dude, just admit you signed on purposely. Nothing wrong with that. Tell her.

[zatrix]

alright so LISTEN TO THIS!

The guy she is messing with now, pretty much going out.... he gave me his email password like in oct. for some project i did for him at school. So anyway i went on windows xp... which i never really use cause i have a mac and went onto my email and his popped up, guess it got saved. Anyone i curiously look at some emails he has been sending in the last week to 4 different girls from back home where he lives. And he has told everyone of them that he loves them and wants to get back together with them. Should I tell my ex girlfriend, i dont even want her back really or anything its just i feel bad for her..... what should i do

You should do nothing, not your place. Unless of course she's paying you money to look out for her, then it would be your job and duty to tell her. Too bad she isn't paying you eh.