has this ever happened? (rant)

[stutterboi]

just wondering if this has ever happened to anyone. so here's a situation that i encountered on an item i was interested in purchasing on another board...

there as an item posted on the BST over there that was an item, that said "this item" for $xx.xx, local pickup only. so basically, the first to pm me and say they can pick it up would get it. now, i pm'ed him he asked if i could meet up with him at a location to do the exchange. i asked where was local for him and i could try to meet up with him.

now, he said the deal would have to be local to him and i would have to travel to his area and asked when i was free. now, his location is roughly a 20-25 minute drive for me which is fine and i don't mind. so i pm'ed him back that i would take the item and meet him at the location that was geographically in his favour, but i said i would not be able to meet him that day but the next. however, i work downtown and would be around 630 before i got back uptown and it would be around 8pm before i could meet him - so i explained to him that i could meet him, but i would have to get off work and travel up to his location and suggested that we could meet at the shopping mall near his house.

now i know he's read the pm's b/c i've received confirmation on it. but he hasn't responded to any of them. however on the thread for the item, the status has been changed to SOLD - which is odd as he had agreed to sell it to me.

i know i didn't lose out on anything and it would cost me no more than $10 MORE to get the exact item retail, but i figured i could save a few bucks and help a fellow board member out on there. the guy has a perfect trader rating and everything, but lacks etiquette. if he had pulled what i consider a "jerk" move, then man up to it - don't ignore me.

/rant :D

i guess i just have to deal... so whatever.

[15-20_God]

so if i understand your story correctly, you wanted to drive 20-25 minutes to save a few dollars on a $10 item? how much is gas now? if anything the seller did you a favour, unless you're one of those ppl that would rather spend $2 so they can save $1.

[stutterboi]

sorry, i meant to SAVE $10 on the item...

[NiMSo]

Well, stuff like that happens. Some people just go by the first-to-pay approach, and don't care about trading practices. It doesn't happen much though, as most people I've dealt with have kept their commitments.

However, I am most aggravated by people who don't give me notice and do not respond to PMs!!! Is it that hard to send a simple reply???!!!

[stutterboi]

i guess that's the way it is.
good deal that wasn't meant to be.
but what goes around comes around.

[aimfox]

lol this has never happened to me..

[AmberMoon]

Has happened to me, even go as far as scheduling a meet and they never showing up, wasting my time and gas money all because they were too lazy to call and say you know what i changed my mind..

People sometimes can be really stupid when it comes to buy/sell and they dont think beyond the screen in front of them but i guess thats the cost of doing business with strangers hehe

[sw1ft]

This thread reminded me of a previous experience I had in 2003 (on HOFO). Incidentally, the user is on RFD and backed out on an offer that he made recently.

Here's the feedback rating that I left (in 2003, when I was a 'young lad'). :lol:
was planning on buying a ps2 off of the guy

not cool.. backed out of deal without warning me -- "sold it to my friend"

initially wanted to buy it in a couple weeks.. but he said he needed the cash by dec 1st so i rushed but got the $ on hand.. but he sells to another

:doh:

[M@rk]

Oh well, it wasn't a good deal anyways, it's not worth your time. If it's a super good deal, I sometimes offer a bit more than the asking price and say I need it quick. That usually gets you priority :) , though I hope it doesn't cause situations like this for other buyers of the item

[stutterboi]

i guess some people lack certain etiquette... he's on here... but i won't post the user name... but karma will come back...

[UrbanPoet]

I had a guy that wanted to buy something off me.....
He jerked around for 2 weeks saying "yes ill buy" and even lowered the price. In the end he backed out saying he didnt need it anymore.

Terrible...

But thats why sellers will sell to the first person that presents cash and picks it up right away

[nsr250]

i guess some people lack certain etiquette... he's on here... but i won't post the user name... but karma will come back...

why not just post the username, I would like to know so I can avoid dealing with someone like this in the future and waste my time.

[stutterboi]

why not just post the username, I would like to know so I can avoid dealing with someone like this in the future and waste my time.

i don't think that would make myself feel any better...
just not in my nature to do that... even tho it would be vengeful

[new fries]

He jerked around for 2 weeks


B40 sighting.

[afong56]

I had a guy that wanted to buy something off me.....
He jerked around for 2 weeks saying "yes ill buy" and even lowered the price. In the end he backed out saying he didnt need it anymore.

Terrible...

But thats why sellers will sell to the first person that presents cash and picks it up right away


yeah, well sometimes, that's not even enough--

i'm not going to name names (he's a relative newb here on rfd), but i once drove an hour from home to buy an item, for the exact price they asked (no lowball whatsoever), and when i got there, they actually tried to ask for more than their asking price!

unethical? yep.

i actually had to convince them that was bad faith dealing (i really don't know how some people have the balls to do it, actually).

i ended up not leaving them any feedback at all, but i should have left negs as a warning to future traders. . .

[stutterboi]

i've done a few deals (pre-feedback times)... and have had no bad experiences at all. everyone before this has been on time (or even earlier!) and our exchanges has always been very pleasant and sometimes even ended up chatting for longer than needed regarding the general interest from the item (usually video games). but this time was the first time i've been blown off.

now i'm also on another board and have done more than 2 dozen exchanges on another board (that usually requires shipping across ontario and canada sometimes) and have not encountered such behaviour. at most, the person would say the item is not available or has been sold to someone else.

i guess waht i see as common courtesy, some people see as way too much work for their time.
/rant

[stutterboi]

to add more to this...
i just did a search and seems that this user had TWO of the items for sale in the BST. so, nothing wrong with me saying i would meet at his location the day after (tuesday past).