How to cope with breakup

[zoogle]

So my g/f of 5 years broke up and moved out yesterday, we will not be getting back together. How have you guys coped in this situation before? I need something to keep myself occupied and not starting to think about her/us. How long does this take? We soo need a relationship forum.. hahaha

[MkmBandit]

Unless you were lucky to have been with her in the first place, a new face would solve your problem.

[zoogle]

Unless you were lucky to have been with her in the first place, a new face would solve your problem.

I agree there, but I'm at the stage right now where I don't think about her faults, just her positives and every girl I talk to right away doesn't interest me because she is better in my mind than any other girl.... how do I make that thought go away?

[najibs]

So my g/f of 5 years broke up and moved out yesterday, we will not be getting back together. How have you guys coped in this situation before? I need something to keep myself occupied and not starting to think about her/us. How long does this take? We soo need a relationship forum.. hahaha

Go get piss drunk, and have a one night stand. Best way to get over a breakup.

[kt11]

watch stand-up comedy

[zoogle]

watch stand-up comedy

I like that idea, got any recommendations?

[UrbanPoet]

I usually light up some candles, and take a hot bubble bath while listening to some kenny G.
A tub of hagen daaz ice cream helps too.

[i6s1]

gftow.

[FerrisB]

So my g/f of 5 years broke up and moved out yesterday, we will not be getting back together. How have you guys coped in this situation before? I need something to keep myself occupied and not starting to think about her/us. How long does this take? We soo need a relationship forum.. hahaha

Stay busy. Go out with friends, find a new hobby that involves other people etc. Busy busy busy.

The absolute worst thing you can do is sit around and think about it.

[yao416]

Wow, 5 Years!!! that's not easy!

How can you let her go like that...

Go chase after her!

[Lone_Prodigy]

Take some time, cry, throw some things, drink, and watch 10 hours of porn.

Wake up the next morning with a splitting headache and a hole in your expensive HDTV and then you'll realize there's more to life than just her. Hard lesson to learn, but it's worth it.

[zoogle]

Wow, 5 Years!!! that's not easy!

How can you let her go like that...

Go chase after her!

This is the second time something like this has happened. First time we got back together for another 1 1/2 yrs. The first time she would mention that she wanted me to call her still. Now she hangs up on me, is angry when she's talking to me, and clearly said not to ever call her again. I'll give it a few days and try communicating with her again but I am not going to get my hopes up.

[yao416]

This is the second time something like this has happened. First time we got back together for another 1 1/2 yrs. The first time she would mention that she wanted me to call her still. Now she hangs up on me, is angry when she's talking to me, and clearly said not to ever call her again. I'll give it a few days and try communicating with her again but I am not going to get my hopes up.

damn dude,

that's 5 year relationship!!!

Good luck.

[kt11]

I like that idea, got any recommendations?

wreckless and hardcore -- Dave Chappele. Start with Killing them Softly then For What it's Worth.
"ha-ha" observational funny -- Jerry Seinfeld "I'm telling you for the last time".

[bokep]

get hammered with a bunch of friends

[billdozer]

hit the gym. the last thing you want to do is become an alcoholic

[Insane_Pikachu]

Sleep with her hot friends you've been fantasizing during the time you were with her. Hit the gym, show her that you can do better without her and she'll see how good your life is and maybe she'll want to come back. If she does, say gtfo.

[yao416]

Sleep with her hot friends you've been fantasizing during the time you were with her. Hit the gym, show her that you can do better without her and she'll see how good your life is and maybe she'll want to come back. If she does, say gtfo.

hehe :lol: :lol:

[Insane_Pikachu]

I'm pretty sure that every guy does fantasize about their girlfriend friends.

[M-e-X-x]

I'm pretty sure that every guy does fantasize about their girlfriend friends.

agreed...

[zoogle]

Sleep with her hot friends you've been fantasizing during the time you were with her. Hit the gym, show her that you can do better without her and she'll see how good your life is and maybe she'll want to come back. If she does, say gtfo.

She was the hottest out of her group of friends, she was always very jealous and it seemed like she made a point not to have friends that were good looking.

[Jkim]

This is the second time something like this has happened. First time we got back together for another 1 1/2 yrs. The first time she would mention that she wanted me to call her still. Now she hangs up on me, is angry when she's talking to me, and clearly said not to ever call her again. I'll give it a few days and try communicating with her again but I am not going to get my hopes up.

ok something obviously happened....what did you do wrong? Cuz i know no girl will act that way for no reason...unless she's a b1tch.

[zoogle]

hit the gym. the last thing you want to do is become an alcoholic

I used to go to the gym (with her.... :cry: ) and I did a lot of thinking as I was working out. Whenever I try to think right now it always ends up on thoughts about her/us which gets me upset or angry. The police will surely be called when there's a sweaty 6'2 200lb guy crying one minute and smashing workout equipment the next :lol: :lol:

[zoogle]

ok something obviously happened....what did you do wrong? Cuz i know no girl will act that way for no reason...unless she's a b1tch.

She is a b1tch when she wants to be. I was sick the day of our anniversary of getting back together and didn't make it very special, although I did promise to make it up to her this Sat that day which was before we broke up. When I brought this up in our last conversation, that I still owe her a date, she thought about it for a second and said no, don't call me again.

[corrupt123]

I wouldn't recommend getting back together. If you've split twice, try to make something of it and move on. Plenty of fish in the sea!

Anyways, +1 for working out and drinking with some friends... but not at the same time. Work out at home if ya want, use your own body-weight if you dont want to go out. Some loud angry music will help occupy your thoughts if your mind starts to wonder while you work out. Then, get totally sloshed with your friends... 48 hours till friday! :cheesygri

[trixstar]

everyone laughed @ me for suggesting a relationship forum..

:lol: :lol: :lol:

[trixstar]

www.lavalife.com =P .. no don't..

[zoogle]

you can find someone better



:arrow:

I know, but right now I feel like ****. I'm kind of irate that I had so many chances for "better" during our relationship that I missed out on. Grrrrr

[zoogle]

www.lavalife.com =P .. no don't..

Not ready for that yet, just want to get back to being myself first.

[belcan15]

join POF .. google it

[bokep]

I know, but right now I feel like ****. I'm kind of irate that I had so many chances for "better" during our relationship that I missed out on. Grrrrr

once you manage to let that go you'll feel a lot better

[trixstar]

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/en/thumb/d/dc/Jeremiah_Morrow_Bridge.jpg/500px-Jeremiah_Morrow_Bridge.jpg









don't do it..

[lkn4deals]

i came out of a 5 year relationship last september...it's certainly not easy, but people have been telling you the right things...stay busy...and do things to get your mind off of it all

i went through some phases...

first couple of months just feeling sorry for myself
next 3 months i turned into a man *****
and then after that i entered another relationship...BAD IDEA...don't do this!

and now, I ended that, since i realized that i wasnt ready to be serious again, and am contemplating returning to man ***** status...haha

[ferkel]

could be worse.. wait until you go through a divorce..

[hagbard]

Don't follow Peter Lee. :|

[Cyber6]

I usually light up some candles, and take a hot bubble bath while listening to some kenny G.
A tub of hagen daaz ice cream helps too.

Dude, I thought you were a guy.. :razz:


C.

[YnD]

Make friends with your hand again until the next person comes along...

[nickia]

i came out of a 5 year relationship last september...it's certainly not easy, but people have been telling you the right things...stay busy...and do things to get your mind off of it all

i went through some phases...

first couple of months just feeling sorry for myself
next 3 months i turned into a man *****
and then after that i entered another relationship...BAD IDEA...don't do this!

and now, I ended that, since i realized that i wasnt ready to be serious again, and am contemplating returning to man ***** status...haha

u mean manwhore

lol it's fun to be a man *****. guys hate you but girls love you

[lkn4deals]

yes hahaha...didnt realize it was censored

u mean manwhore

lol it's fun to be a man *****. guys hate you but girls love you

[drucillica]

u mean manwhore

lol it's fun to be a man *****. guys hate you but girls love you

Yes, we know you're a manwhore. You don't need to remind us every chance you get. Although from your posts, I call BS on that.

And no, girls don't love manwhores - you're giving yourself too much credit. :rolleyes:

[billdozer]

Yes, we know you're a manwhore. You don't need to remind us every chance you get. Although from your posts, I call BS on that.

And no, girls don't love manwhores - you're giving yourself too much credit. :rolleyes:

meee yowww :razz:

[mself084]

a bottle of JD and some porn. in between porn watching, play video games. wake up the next day, and you'll realize that caring for yourself and doing what you want to do is more important than some chick who doesn't even want to be with you.

worst thing you can do is call her...you'll come off desperate, needy, etc. let her know you're happy without her, and if she wants to open the communication lines, she'll do it.

[Rocketo]

She was the hottest out of her group of friends, she was always very jealous and it seemed like she made a point not to have friends that were good looking.

i'm surprised nobody has asked to see her picture or say "this thread is pointless without pics"

hot girl ...single...hmmm

[blahblohblah]

There are plenty of fish in the ocean.
It is the stress of change and the loneliness that is the real problem.

Best way to forget about old pussycat is to find new pussycat.
Believe me there is a lot of pussycat out there that is probably better than the old stuff you had.
Once you find that new pussycat you will wonder why you stayed with the old.

As for the old one JUST LEAVING - well sounds like she was a C*

[ricoboxing]

revenge!

post some pics of you banging her.
that would make you feel a lot better.

We know you have those pics somewhere.

or even better, post a video of you banging her.

[danfromwaterloo]

So my g/f of 5 years broke up and moved out yesterday, we will not be getting back together. How have you guys coped in this situation before? I need something to keep myself occupied and not starting to think about her/us. How long does this take? We soo need a relationship forum.. hahaha

Having been through something similar about 4 years ago...

It really sucks. You'll be really sad and melancholy for the next few weeks. You'll think of her, and be sad. You'll think that you'll never find anybody like her ever again. She was the one for you and you let her get away. No one will ever love you again, and you'll be alone. Forever.

Then, you'll start going out with your friends. You'll realize what fun it is to be single - to do exactly what you want, when you want it. Stay out late at night, eat nothing but chicken wings, get horribly drunk, etc.

Then, you'll discover women again, and start dating. A few one night stands here and there. A few nights at the club. A few nights at the pub. A few dates here and there.

Then, you'll meet someone that will make you feel something you haven't felt in a long while - that spark that ignites something deep inside. You'll talk to her, date her, and eventually fall in love.

You'll never forget the fun times that you had with your ex. You'll probably never forget the feelings that you feel/felt for her. The pain will subside over time, and all you'll remember in the end is the happiness you had. All this shiet that you're going through now will end. Trust someone who's been there and done that.

[bobguy]

Here's a curveball to this scenario....what if you work with that person. Guy I work with was in a 2 yr relationship with a girl here, and they just broke up 2 weeks ago....I can't imagine that...having to see/talk to that person everyday still....NEVER, ever, date someone at work

[Nikita]

Immerse yourself in work, or studies if you're in school. The best medicine for a broken heart and the best way to keep your mind occupied so you're not thinking of her and feeling sorry for yourself 24/7. It also makes you feel able and competent at a time when she's taken a hit on your ego. Work is a great salve.

[danfromwaterloo]

Here's a curveball to this scenario....what if you work with that person. Guy I work with was in a 2 yr relationship with a girl here, and they just broke up 2 weeks ago....I can't imagine that...having to see/talk to that person everyday still....NEVER, ever, date someone at work

Agreed. Don't shiet where you eat.

[weedb0y]

Honestly, the less 'caring' you seem at this stage, the more it will bug her and make her wonder about what she is missing.

If its meant to be, it will happen. Otherwise, you have done what you could do so far. Just act less needy and HAPPY (as in moving on with your life).

Girls with low-self esteem tend do this out of the blue. Hot girls with low self-confidence is a big sign that its more than what appears to you. Mental self-confidence, brought up, issues that need proper therapy.

I have read up on this and best approach to saving a 5 yr relationship is to let her do what she wants and not create resistance, she will start to wonder why isnt there any resistance!

You could also 'not care' by ignoring any potential calls. Let her wonder and call you back properly without 'ego' and other issues and as adults. It was also her 5 year relationship and sooner or later, its going to start bugging her as well.

But at this stage, best approach is tell her that you agree with her and thats it. Or just stop answering her calls. Trust me, if you do this, it will make her call you.

[nickia]

Yes, we know you're a manwhore. You don't need to remind us every chance you get. Although from your posts, I call BS on that.

And no, girls don't love manwhores - you're giving yourself too much credit. :rolleyes:

I'm not trying to brag that I'm a womanizer or whatever because I'm not even close to that. Like i've said , i was not a 100% manwhore, but was behaving vastly different than a "nice" guy I used to be. It is definitely fun and well worth it. I literally started conversations with random girls at my workplace and even went out with two. However, it takes a lot of energy and gut for me to maintain that kind of "life style".

Right now I'm kind of regressed and stagnant in a completely new environment with no friends. I should pick it up soon because otherwise I will fall back into the eternal depressed life that I've suffered for years.

Honestly, in those few months where I behaved differently than I usually do, I felt really happy and energized. :)

[george benjamin]

Stay busy. Go out with friends, find a new hobby that involves other people etc. Busy busy busy.

The absolute worst thing you can do is sit around and think about it.

Hello,

Get 2 full time jobs from Monday to Friday.

One job in the morning to afternoon, other job from afternoon to midnight.

Then on weekends, get a another job for weekends only.

Start a business.

Take 2 courses at University.

Do all those together and you would have forgotten her.

[zoogle]

Thanks for all the advice, words of support. I'm hanging out with friends I've lost touch with, making new ones and keeping busy which is all helping very much.

[Electricute]

This may sound stupid, and it sounded stupid when my gf of 7 years said it to me. She got pissed mad outta her head and screamed that she didn't want to see me or hear from me and wanted time to herself. BUT apparently that doesn't mean that you shouldn't go see her. She wants to know that your still committed to the relationship and that you want things to work out. Every relationship has fights and its the ones that learn to work things out that last the longest.

I find poker at the casino against tourist with lots of money gets my mind off of things

[FerrisB]

This may sound stupid, and it sounded stupid when my gf of 7 years said it to me. She got pissed mad outta her head and screamed that she didn't want to see me or hear from me and wanted time to herself. BUT apparently that doesn't mean that you shouldn't go see her. She wants to know that your still committed to the relationship and that you want things to work out. Every relationship has fights and its the ones that learn to work things out that last the longest.

I find poker at the casino against tourist with lots of money gets my mind off of things

Sure people have fights and make up, but he said quite clearly that they wouldn't be getting back together. There's a big difference between the two and you can tell when something is really over. Happened to me after a 4 year, the difference is I stewed over it for a year and made myself feel 10x worse. I cut everything out of my life so all I was left with to focus on was the loss of the relationship. Biiig mistake.

[saugaboy]

Sorry for your situation. Only time will heal everything, try to stay busy and it helps if you have some good friends.

also watch Swingers with vince vaughn http://imdb.com/title/tt0117802/ its prob one of the best guy movies to watch for a break up also great advise in there too. honestly watch this movie.

[weedb0y]

Sure people have fights and make up, but he said quite clearly that they wouldn't be getting back together. There's a big difference between the two and you can tell when something is really over. Happened to me after a 4 year, the difference is I stewed over it for a year and made myself feel 10x worse. I cut everything out of my life so all I was left with to focus on was the loss of the relationship. Biiig mistake.

He indicated thats what she had said. Obviously when someone runs off from a relationship, they would say that. Best advice right now is not create 'resistance'. There are physcological issues that cause these as oppose to people just not working out while they did for 5+ yrs.

Ofcourse, if its meant to be, she will be back. Only time will tell. However, that does not mean that it has to be over. It is 5+ yr relationship. It just matters on people (or alteast one person) sticking to it while being in a hard situation. Otherwise, none of the marriages would ever work out.

[Alvito]

Hello,

Get 2 full time jobs from Monday to Friday.

One job in the morning to afternoon, other job from afternoon to midnight.

Then on weekends, get a another job for weekends only.

Start a business.

Take 2 courses at University.

Do all those together and you would have forgotten her.

OR he can grow a pair and go meet some other girl.

[Firebot]

She is a b1tch when she wants to be. I was sick the day of our anniversary of getting back together and didn't make it very special, although I did promise to make it up to her this Sat that day which was before we broke up. When I brought this up in our last conversation, that I still owe her a date, she thought about it for a second and said no, don't call me again.

You stayed with someone that would get this upset about an anniversary not being 'very special' and break up a 5 year relationship over it? Either there is a very big 2nd side to the story that you aren't telling, or you were a doormat for 5 years.

[mxhp00]

I'm surprised ji2o0k hasn't offered his advice yet, but I'm pretty sure you all know what his advice to all life problems is. :lol:

[weedb0y]

You stayed with someone that would get this upset about an anniversary not being 'very special' and break up a 5 year relationship over it? Either there is a very big 2nd side to the story that you aren't telling, or you were a doormat for 5 years.

As again, if this is this irratic, then it leads to other internal factors such as physch, mental health, upbringing etc. Depression/Anxiety has been known to cause people to act abnormal. Obviously, there are more issues, it could be that OP was too 'beta' and she is used to taking him for granted.

None the less, if 5 years mean anything to her, she will realize it. 5 years is almost a marriage man. Its not easy to just move in case like this imo.

[zoogle]

You stayed with someone that would get this upset about an anniversary not being 'very special' and break up a 5 year relationship over it? Either there is a very big 2nd side to the story that you aren't telling, or you were a doormat for 5 years.

That was the straw that broke the camel's back, we started fighting increasingly over the past couple of weeks and she said she just couldn't live like that anymore, for the first time ever she said she didn't have the same feelings for me as before.... sick burn.

[ktan09]

+1 for Relationship forum!

[moebius]

Glad I am not unique :)

Just going through the breakup myself, although I was the one that initiated the breakup and it was "only" a year long relationship. I think as I got older and maybe wiser I am thinking no point in wasting time, so move on. We are both intent on staying friends - we'll see how that goes. I made some mistakes early on in the relationship and I guess those small mistakes came haunting me back after a year.

I've spoken to some other people who have broken up and a lot of them seem to have known when it was over and they still stayed a few more years coasting along. I think I gave it about month to work out relationship and we gave it a best shot, but it was just too difficult to get back on track.

I already in fact feel better about it. A day after, and against the advices from my friends I visited the place where we first met. It was hard, but I felt like I had to face the demons head on. I also went through all our emails and other correspondance. And finally, because I am the one that broke up with her, I went through the list of things that bothered me with her. I justified the breakup. I would have picked up my stuff from her place if she called me, but I'll give her some time to mourn our relationship before getting my stuff back.

Try to think of her negatives - surely she has something. Write it down. Think of times when you were angry with her. I am not saying you should start hating her, but it helps to rationalize and realize that maybe you weren't meant to be together.

Good luck and you'll get it over with

[weedb0y]

Glad I am not unique :)

Just going through the breakup myself, although I was the one that initiated the breakup and it was "only" a year long relationship. I think as I got older and maybe wiser I am thinking no point in wasting time, so move on. We are both intent on staying friends - we'll see how that goes. I made some mistakes early on in the relationship and I guess those small mistakes came haunting me back after a year.

I've spoken to some other people who have broken up and a lot of them seem to have known when it was over and they still stayed a few more years coasting along. I think I gave it about month to work out relationship and we gave it a best shot, but it was just too difficult to get back on track.

I already in fact feel better about it. A day after, and against the advices from my friends I visited the place where we first met. It was hard, but I felt like I had to face the demons head on. I also went through all our emails and other correspondance. And finally, because I am the one that broke up with her, I went through the list of things that bothered me with her. I justified the breakup. I would have picked up my stuff from her place if she called me, but I'll give her some time to mourn our relationship before getting my stuff back.

Try to think of her negatives - surely she has something. Write it down. Think of times when you were angry with her. I am not saying you should start hating her, but it helps to rationalize and realize that maybe you weren't meant to be together.

Good luck and you'll get it over with

Well, human mind is always eager to think negatives and your relationship was one year vs his was 5 years. Lot of difference. From the way you are talking, it does seem that you are not fit for a real serious relationship anyway. Who makes notes on people's faults? It almost seems that you are trying very hard to break it up due to external reasons.

If that was the case, I gurantee you wouldn't even be able to keep your relationship with your family. Everyone has faults and when you are in a relationship, you dont look at every single fault of other person, otherwise, you will never find your perfect match ever.

There are millions of reasons when one looks to break/ quit their job/school etc. But only one to keep it. Ofcourse, you could've also never clicked with her and thats a different situation. But I can assure you that his 5 year relationship was alot more than your one year.

Anyway, as you suggested, the best advice is to know that you are not the only going through this.

[thesk8man]

TO: ORIGNAL POSTER

you know no one is perfect i have a long story too but thats not the point ... you can not replace people unless your cold hearted .... some people change and some don't ... life goes on you have to decide that you can live with them or they are too much for you. if its worth it than go back if not than move on just don't be stuck in the middle mate.

also you can do cold water extraction with any otc pain meds. the end product is very remarkable and enjoyable also visit your local psychologist and get some cipralex or ativan or lorazepam or prozac or paxil CR. Paxil Cr has longer half life with less side effects than regular paxil but withdrawl symtoms are equally bad and same. dependence can develop after using as less as 3 pills so you will have withdrawal symptoms if you stop using it

lorazepam which gets relabelled as ativan is very habit forming so plan ahead and save up. if your going to take it than please dont crush it up and try to snort it cuz it will not stick to your inner lining of the nose its going to burn bad and will not have any effect what so ever. dont swallow it eighter,put it under your tongue and let it melt. it melts and enters your blood with in secounds so its the best and most effecient way. also you can take it at work or any where else. 1mg of it should make you wanna start a new life fast please dont use alcahol or drive or make any important decisions while using this or while going through with drawl effects after using them. alcahol mixed with rx med will make you loose names, and numm parts of your body and make food taste like metal all the time.

so my advise is cry grief think act and move on and wish yourself a happy life and her aswell. life is too short to be mad and sad all the time.

good luck.

[aKiu]

How to cope with and get over a breakup? Keep your mind occupied, and keep busy, and keep active. Here's some ideas...

Hit the gym, workout and look better. Change your diet and eat different. Change your hairstyle. Call out an old girlfriend and go revamp your closet. Join some sports clubs and get good at sports. Join a jogging room. Call out old friends that you lost touch with because of your girlfriend. Take it easy and slow, and have a good time to drink, and don't talk to your friends about your girl, it'll only make you think of her more.

Get some hobbies and stick to them. If you have no hobbies, or nothing to do, you'll sit around, and when you sit around, you'll start thinking of what she's doing, and then you'll start missing her.

It's like smoking... keep your mind off her for long enough, and you'll break the habit. But just to let you know, you'll always have a soft spot for your girl. After 5 years, it's inevitable, there will always be that soft spot, and you just have to try to deal with it...

Oh yeah, and also a disclaimer that all these suggestions are useless and won't work unless you are serious about this relationship being over and wanting to move on.

[i6s1]

There are plenty of fish in the ocean.


Yeah, but there's also a lot of whales.

[moebius]

Well, human mind is always eager to think negatives and your relationship was one year vs his was 5 years. Lot of difference. From the way you are talking, it does seem that you are not fit for a real serious relationship anyway. Who makes notes on people's faults? It almost seems that you are trying very hard to break it up due to external reasons.

If that was the case, I gurantee you wouldn't even be able to keep your relationship with your family. Everyone has faults and when you are in a relationship, you dont look at every single fault of other person, otherwise, you will never find your perfect match ever.

There are millions of reasons when one looks to break/ quit their job/school etc. But only one to keep it. Ofcourse, you could've also never clicked with her and thats a different situation. But I can assure you that his 5 year relationship was alot more than your one year.

Anyway, as you suggested, the best advice is to know that you are not the only going through this.

I think it depends what kind of relationship you had. I have a friend whose relationship lasted 7 years, but who is to say it was more deeper than mine? In any case it could be true. People think that if it lasts long time it is better than if it last just a short while. I know people who married after only knowing each other for a few months and are still together after 20 years and are happy and I've known couples who were sweethearts from school and married a decade later only to have their marriage last a very short time.

I wasn't looking for faults in her, just justifying it to myself. Of course, it's impossible to find a perfect match and there will always be some things that you don't like in a partner. That doesn't mean I should place my ex on a pedestal and idealize her (as I did). What I am saying is heart tells you one thing, but the mind always knows better. If you could look at yourself from the outside you'd get some insight. Anyway, they said love lasts only a year or so and afterwards it's how well you adapt to each other.

On the side note: I recommend reading and watching Persepolis - a great movie, but it also highlights some things about relationships. Take note how she handled 2 breakups and how she came out of it.

Just my 2 cents.

[weedb0y]

Great response boss. Hit the spot. Romantic love vs Deep love. Romantic love is alive and great during the chase state while deep love is what keeps marriages going.

I am sure everyone has had 'I cant deal with this' moment in their relationships. It just that some people are too fast to call it quits (specially in a serious-marriage-leading relationship). Ofcourse, if there was no spark, it doesn't matter if it was 5 yrs or 5 months.

[CSAgent]

Be a man! Do the right thing!

Go hang out with Najibs, he rents himself out on the weekends. Trust me, I know where to find him on the weekends..hehehehehhhh

[sexpuppet6000]

+1 relationship forum

[CSAgent]

+1 relationship forum

And change the Maple Leaf logo at the top to a broken heart... :lol:

[UrbanPoet]

+1 for Relationship forum!

chyeah!!!

Anyways... I think some girls are just crazy like that.
you can be beta, and non beta, and even if you play all the cards right, theres still a 50% chance of things screwing up!

[zoogle]

So I've been doing pretty good keeping busy and taking my mind off of her but today everything just came crashing down and I feel as bad if not worse than the day it happened. I wrote her a letter and am going to drop it off, my last attempt at reaching out to her.

[JohnB]

get another gf and move on, LOL...

[poppa]

So I've been doing pretty good keeping busy and taking my mind off of her but today everything just came crashing down and I feel as bad if not worse than the day it happened. I wrote her a letter and am going to drop it off, my last attempt at reaching out to her.

Letters are no good because it shows you're are not strong enough (you get no respect!) to say it to her face. Unless you have a disability or disorder that she is aware of, I would not do that.

Best thing to do is just give each other space. If you have to cry then cry to get it out of your system.

[danfromwaterloo]

So I've been doing pretty good keeping busy and taking my mind off of her but today everything just came crashing down and I feel as bad if not worse than the day it happened. I wrote her a letter and am going to drop it off, my last attempt at reaching out to her.

Letters are for pussies that don't have the stones to say it to her face.

If you've got something to say, ring the doorbell and say it to her. No matter what happens - if it works for you or it doesn't - you'll at least get points for that.

Man up. If you need to talk to her, go and talk to her.

But I wouldn't. She ended it. Therefore, she has hand. If you crawl back to her, for the rest of your relationship, she'll have MAD hand.

[zoogle]

Letters are for pussies that don't have the stones to say it to her face.

If you've got something to say, ring the doorbell and say it to her. No matter what happens - if it works for you or it doesn't - you'll at least get points for that.

Man up. If you need to talk to her, go and talk to her.

But I wouldn't. She ended it. Therefore, she has hand. If you crawl back to her, for the rest of your relationship, she'll have MAD hand.

Can't really talk to her face to face. She has burned all her bridges with her friends and parents in the past, none of them want her living with them so she is staying at a women's shelter. Couldn't even drop off a letter for her.

[1Tang]

go to the gym and workout, that helped me especially boxing

[weedb0y]

Can't really talk to her face to face. She has burned all her bridges with her friends and parents in the past, none of them want her living with them so she is staying at a women's shelter. Couldn't even drop off a letter for her.

Bro,

I know exactly what you are feeling. Do you want to save it? I know it is a 5 year relationship. Do what I indicated earlier and she WILL be back. Act like it doesn't matter and just be happy. Do tell her that you wanted to fix it but I guess its her decision.

Thats it, give it some time now. Women are attracted to Alpha male. Act like it.

[zoogle]

Bro,

I know exactly what you are feeling. Do you want to save it? I know it is a 5 year relationship. Do what I indicated earlier and she WILL be back. Act like it doesn't matter and just be happy. Do tell her that you wanted to fix it but I guess its her decision.

Thats it, give it some time now. Women are attracted to Alpha male. Act like it.

I would of preferred to save it but now I have other opportunities presenting themselves. I can just see her coming back when it's too late and I'm already involved with someone else.

[weedb0y]

I would of preferred to save it but now I have other opportunities presenting themselves. I can just see her coming back when it's too late and I'm already involved with someone else.

Dont get too involved in the rebound phase though. Just keep your cool, this is the best way. If it was marriage related issue, I would have said not to be involved at all but in this case, I think you are on the right track. Good luck b.

[Firebot]

I would of preferred to save it but now I have other opportunities presenting themselves. I can just see her coming back when it's too late and I'm already involved with someone else.

Then that's her problem to deal with. She broke it off, over something pretty petty at that. You also mentioned she loves to burn bridges, to the point where she has to live in a woman's shelter. That in itself is a very big red flag about the relationship. Don't contact her at all, no letter, no message. She has to make the move. If she makes it way too late, then so be it. You should live for your own happiness.

If you crawl back or make yourself miserable by waiting for her, nothing will ever change.

[Jkim]

yo OP was your gf azn? if she is...was she either viet or korean...:?:

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[weedb0y]

Then that's her problem to deal with. She broke it off, over something pretty petty at that. You also mentioned she loves to burn bridges, to the point where she has to live in a woman's shelter. That in itself is a very big red flag about the relationship. Don't contact her at all, no letter, no message. She has to make the move. If she makes it way too late, then so be it. You should live for your own happiness.

If you crawl back or make yourself miserable by waiting for her, nothing will ever change.

Great advice. From what I am reading, she will come back after her mind cools down, however, she is also feeding on OP's "niceness". He should remain 'normal' aka happy. Weather it be flings with other girls or not!

[zoogle]

Great advice. From what I am reading, she will come back after her mind cools down, however, she is also feeding on OP's "niceness". He should remain 'normal' aka happy. Weather it be flings with other girls or not!

When we broke up last time we both had our flings, her one, me several. This seemed to cause a lot of turbulence after we got back together though. I definitely still love her and when things are going good they're great. She started talking to me again so we'll see where that goes... uncertain what I'm going to do still.

[FerrisB]

A few years ago my friend's GF told him she needed 2 weeks off to 'think'. This was out of nowhere. He was confused but he said ok. They had been together for 6 years.

Close to the end of the second week he drove to her place and noticed an extra car in the driveway.

Turns out for those 2 weeks she had been nailing a guy from her work pretty much every night. I guess she thought that it wouldn't be cheating that way.

He refused to speak with her again. She called sobbing every day for months saying she wanted to marry him and have his kids etc. He never forgave her.

[zoogle]

Bahaaha! I just saw her the other day and she's gained sooo much weight, I'm so over her now. Blocked her on msn, facebook. Told all my friends not to tell me anything about her if they hear it. Feel life coming back into me, haven't felt like this in a long time. Thanks for all the support guys!

[i6s1]

Bahaaha! I just saw her the other day and she's gained sooo much weight, I'm so over her now.

Wow, I thought I was shallow.

[ali123]

Bahaaha! I just saw her the other day and she's gained sooo much weight, I'm so over her now. Blocked her on msn, facebook. Told all my friends not to tell me anything about her if they hear it. Feel life coming back into me, haven't felt like this in a long time. Thanks for all the support guys!

this is what you expect from a typical idiot lol...

[Becks]

It's a good thing the OP has gotten over his obsessive post-breakup thought pattern after seeing his ex looking "fat". However, I don't find much maturity or self-awareness developing as a result of this breakup.

[zoogle]

Maturity level has maintained itself at the level of a 16 yr old. I've definitely thought a lot of things over though, started reading some Carlos Xuma, much more self aware as a matter of fact.