What to do to break up someone else relationship?

[alexei]

Well theres this girl I am interested in for awhile now and I think shes interested in me as well. The problem is she has a boyfriend for more than 3 years and it was her first. Considering the fact that we both fairly young (20 yrs old), shes decent looking, how likely is the relationship will last? I have seen too many relationships breaking apart after 2-3yrs so I assume eventually relationship will fall apart.

I know its pretty evil to attempt to break up someone's relationship but i believe i can make her happy more than he can. So what are some of the proper ways/methods/techniques to get her to leave him?

[d_jedi]

Short answer: you don't. You're much more likely to screw up any hope of a relationship with the girl than anything else.

[Diamondog]

Well theres this girl I am interested in for awhile now and I think shes interested in me as well. The problem is she has a boyfriend for more than 3 years and it was her first. Considering the fact that we both fairly young (20 yrs old), shes decent looking, how likely is the relationship will last? I have seen too many relationships breaking apart after 2-3yrs so I assume eventually relationship will fall apart.

I know its pretty evil to attempt to break up someone's relationship but i believe i can make her happy more than he can. So what are some of the proper ways/methods/techniques to get her to leave him?

Grow up

[TapemanPL]

yea if you mess up her current relationship she'll probably hate you forever...if she really wanted to be with you and not the guy she's with right now then she would have left him on her own terms

[laptop-tech]

unreal...

[goob3r]

"Accident"

[Flyer]

You may only ruin the relationship if you do it in such a way that you ma never hook up with the female.

[Fox2k]

wow.

[i6s1]

Well theres this girl I am interested in for awhile now and I think shes interested in me as well. The problem is she has a boyfriend for more than 3 years and it was her first. Considering the fact that we both fairly young (20 yrs old), shes decent looking, how likely is the relationship will last? I have seen too many relationships breaking apart after 2-3yrs so I assume eventually relationship will fall apart.

I know its pretty evil to attempt to break up someone's relationship but i believe i can make her happy more than he can. So what are some of the proper ways/methods/techniques to get her to leave him?

Good for you. It's very considerate of you to look out for her interests above your own.

Hit on her sometimes, treat her like a friend most of the time, and wait for her to make her move. When she starts talking about her boyfriend's shortcomings, you're close.

A lot of girls are "rescue boat" girls. They're on a sinking relationSHIP and they know it. But they won't jump into the cold waters of singleness. They need the rescue boat to be right there for them to jump straight onto it.

DON'T stop looking for another girl, and let her know it. Remember, she's your friend, and friends tell each other when they think a chick is hot. The jealousy will help, plus you might be totally misreading the situation and never get with her. Keep your options open.

[yao416]

I :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: when I saw that title

[najibs]

So you need our help to teach you how to become a sleezeball? Grow some hair on your nuts first...

[KorruptioN]

grow up.

[ji2o0k]

you should sleep and make love with the bf............and then get caught by the gf while in the act.......but wear a mask so the gf doesn't know it is you.

she will break up with the gh3y bf and you will have her all to yourself.

You could approach her and say "Wow, who knew your bf was ghey?"........

[VorteC]

if you think you can love her better, why are you contemplating making her sad already? god damn

[M-e-X-x]

yeah i'm sorry, gotta agree with the rest... weasling ur way in like that... no respect... i think it may have happened to my ex-gf and i as she's dating one of her guy friends that i didn't like...

[Fox2k]

A lot of girls are "rescue boat" girls. They're on a sinking relationSHIP and they know it. But they won't jump into the cold waters of singleness. They need the rescue boat to be right there for them to jump straight onto it.

DON'T stop looking for another girl, and let her know it. Remember, she's your friend, and friends tell each other when they think a chick is hot. The jealousy will help, plus you might be totally misreading the situation and never get with her. Keep your options open.

lol this is SO true. Although, in the context of this thread, I would say it is better to be the cruise ship passing by, ready to pick up people in the water rather than being the guy in the dingy yelling with a mega[hone for people to come aboard.

[GoW]

Buy a gun.

[najibs]

Buy a gun.

I take it you're the posesive type?

[laptop-tech]

The real problem is : what are we going to tell him when he starts a thread asking for advice on how to force her to dump you and get back with him ?

[funkyfr3sh_]

How are so you sure she likes you? If she wants to be with you, she wouldn't be with someone else...plain and simple.

What kind of "friend" are you anyway?


i believe i can make her happy more than he can.

BTW, your beliefs are not necessarily her reality.

[ali123]

LOL WTH even a 13 year old wouldn't ask that question, you seem like one of those evil desperate ppl

[najibs]

How are so you sure she likes you? If she wants to be with you, she wouldn't be with someone else...plain and simple.

What kind of "friend" are you anyway?



BTW, your beliefs are not necessarily her reality.

It would be funny if she breaks up with her current BF under normal circumstances, and when the OP goes to court her, she completely blows him off :lol:

[funkyfr3sh_]

It would be funny if she breaks up with her current BF under normal circumstances, and when the OP goes to court her, she completely blows him off :lol:

We don't need a "How do I get this (single) girl to like me thread?"!!
Have you heard of that book called "He's just not that into you". I'm sure it doesn't just apply to women.

[Jkim]

http://media.ebaumsworld.com/forumfun/sucks3.jpg

dont be a home wrecker.

btw; post a pic of the girl and we'll decide if you should be a home wrecker or not :twisted:

[Sheky]

I'm going to disagree with most of you. If they're not married, IMO it's fair game. If anything, you owe it to your fellow man to test it to see how strong this relationship truly is before he takes the plunge.

To claim it's somehow inherently evil that he's trying to pull this off, you're merely indirectly saying the girl does not have the intellect or the right to to make her own choice. It takes two to tango; if the girl thinks another man will make a better BF/mate, who are you to argue with her? She's not a piece of land that can be claimed by the first man that plants a flag pole into her. And as someone said earlier, a lot of girls are like monkeys, they will not let go of one branch until they can grab the next one. If the OP thinks he can be the next branch, then go for it.

That said, if he's asking about this on a forum, I think the OP will fail miserably though if he tries to jump ladder...*grabs popcorn*.

[Dragon120]

[QUOTE=alexei;5572868] i believe i can make her happy more than he can.QUOTE]

What makes you think that? I doubt you know everything that happens in their relationship nor how he treats her from time to time.

That assumption you made is foolish, egotistic, and outright ridiculous.

If you treat her as a friend, just be her friend at this time and if it happens, it'll happen. It's not like there are no women left in this world...at your age (early 20's), you should be exploring...not trying to be an a**hole ruining someone else's relationship.

Think about this...what if you succeeded (she becomes your gf) and some guy comes along and try to ruin your relationship with her? What makes you think you can keep her if she was easily seduced by you in the first place? ;)

[billdozer]

*grabs lawn chair and popcorn to enjoy the show*

[ItechJester]

my 2 cents:

don't try to force it. VERY good chance they'll eventually break up.
if they don't, be happy for her. if you really like her, you should be content that she's found "the one"


with that said, i agree that it's all fair game. don't feel bad. but don't be that 'jckass'

[vrus]

lol op, you're a jerk, but +1 for honesty.

[Carnage]

I think what you're trying to ask is "How do I get my ass kicked by a jealous boyfriend?"

[kgen]

Wow, so evil... yet so much potential for an awesome follow up thread :lol:
+1 for sitting back with the popcorn!

[hahn]

remember this: karma is a b****

[Dragon120]

accidently hit a button.

[flypretty]

if she really wanted to be with you and not the guy she's with right now then she would have left him on her own terms

From a girl's perspective..+1

[gman]

Tell the girl that her boy friend is the OP of this thread.

[alexei]

hahaha thanks for all the great posts..i knew it would stirr up alot of you guys...i just wanted a opinion thats all..u guys seriously need to relax a little.

Yea i know its a kind of ******* move. If I were the bf..i would be pissed however my situation applies if only the girl is interested in another person and trust me i know. In situations like these..i think its ok to test how loyal or much she loves her current bf..if it wont happen now..it will eventually happen to another dude while they're married.

hahaha some of u guys need to chill out..its an open forum, go somewhere else if your offended.

[Jkim]

new thread in the making from OP:

"I got my ass kicked by the girl's Boyfriend"


Please update if you
1) failed miserably
2) got your ass handled by the boyfriend
3) you did it and now going out with her but you know you gonna get your ass kicked anyways

Good luck :lol:

[sexpuppet6000]

first relationships don't usually last forever.

[Alvito]

she wont have a boyfriend if you kill him.


just saying.

[i6s1]

first relationships don't usually last forever.

True. I've heard that 100% of them end either in breakup or death.

[gilboman]

as long as they're not married, the guy or girl have right to choose, so if the op wants to go for it, then so be it, nothing wrong with that at all.

as long as he doesnt do sleezeball tatics like outright lies or say stuff to make the current b/f seem bad, then there's no problem.

[Stunt_101]

wow are u a kid? so childish. GROW UP

[babysham]

Bang her. Videotape it. Put it on Youtube.

[express.items]

If she is interested in you (as you have stated), then she would leave her bf and be with your right? I'm sure you both know you're interested in each other...

Would you want to deal with that though, that she could so easily leave him and be with you? I hope that does happen and she does that to you for some other guy cause you're just some evil desperate idiot. Maybe he'll get to kill you instead.

[Talamasca]

This is like a real life Dangerous Liaisons but without the great acting, wit or dialogue. Pass the popcorn. This is a trainwreck waiting to happen! :D

[hover42]

To the OP:

If the girl is staying with her bf just because she doesn't want to be alone, then she ain't worth getting. People who have such dependencies are sick and need treatment; they're no fun to have around.

Otherwise, she's with her bf because she CLEARLY prefers him over you.

Either case, you're better off gettig over her. You need to ask yourself why you're attracted to a girl who's with somebody else; you're just heading for a disaster.

[masterhapposai]

Well theres this girl I am interested in for awhile now and I think shes interested in me as well. The problem is she has a boyfriend for more than 3 years and it was her first. Considering the fact that we both fairly young (20 yrs old), shes decent looking, how likely is the relationship will last? I have seen too many relationships breaking apart after 2-3yrs so I assume eventually relationship will fall apart.

I know its pretty evil to attempt to break up someone's relationship but i believe i can make her happy more than he can. So what are some of the proper ways/methods/techniques to get her to leave him?



Proof that guys can't be friends with girls.

They are always up to this.

[Nikita]

:arrowu: :arrowu: :arrowu: ROFL!:arrowu: :arrowu: :arrowu:

Pass the popcorn please....you guys (not you OP) are great comedic relief! :cheesygri

[dre145]

i have to say, being a guy and all I dont like the thought of some guy trying to pick up my gf.

But id rather lose her at 2 months then 2 years into marriage, its not like you can keep her locked up and not let her have male friends. To a certain extent its beneficial to her current boyfriend, Because like its been mentioned in this thread some girls stick around in a relationship just so that they arnt single, but once another willing guy comes along they will jump ship, Would u rather the guy come around in the first 2 months of ur relationship or in 5 years.

A relationship is based around trust, the only way you can gain more trust with ur partner is if u go through tests and experiences.

[vrus]

^- and I am that man giving the test and experience.

just kidding.

sort of.:)

[unleashed]

you should sleep and make love with the bf............and then get caught by the gf while in the act.......but wear a mask so the gf doesn't know it is you.

she will break up with the gh3y bf and you will have her all to yourself.

You could approach her and say "Wow, who knew your bf was ghey?"........

hahhahahaha lol

[tet8suo]

if you think you can love her better, why are you contemplating making her sad already? god damn
good point

[akito925]

my 2 cents:

don't try to force it. VERY good chance they'll eventually break up.
if they don't, be happy for her. if you really like her, you should be content that she's found "the one"


with that said, i agree that it's all fair game. don't feel bad. but don't be that 'jckass'

Don't be that Jackass yeah! they are in a relatonship, go find another girl.. for sure you can find someone much better

[danfromwaterloo]

Well theres this girl I am interested in for awhile now and I think shes interested in me as well. The problem is she has a boyfriend for more than 3 years and it was her first. Considering the fact that we both fairly young (20 yrs old), shes decent looking, how likely is the relationship will last? I have seen too many relationships breaking apart after 2-3yrs so I assume eventually relationship will fall apart.

I know its pretty evil to attempt to break up someone's relationship but i believe i can make her happy more than he can. So what are some of the proper ways/methods/techniques to get her to leave him?

Here's the thing: she's closer to him than you. That's why he's her boyfriend. And you're not. Therefore, all that you're likely to do is drive her farther away from you, if not break up your friendship all together.

Nothing you can do will break up a solid relationship. A rocky relationship will ruin itself all by itself. If you sit back, and just be a friend to her, you might have a shot when and if things go astray.

[Rocketo]

i think its ok to test how loyal or much she loves her current bf..if it wont happen now..it will eventually happen to another dude while they're married.

.

dude i hope when you have a gf that some guys pulls this shiet on u ...that's the problem with a lot of people these days..pure selfishness...im sure there are many girls out there u can probably have that are single but u choose to stir shiet up with this one cuz she's taken and it's more appealing when it's not urs..i hope he finds out who u are and pummels u into the ground...

what goes around comes around bud

[Corinthein]

Ah yes, here is a prime example of the obsessive compulsive stalker type. Snakes like this hide in the short grass waiting for those opportune moment's to wreak havoc on a perfectly fine relationship. You should send her an anonymous email with a link to this thread, I am sure will have nothing but respect for your efforts to win her heart. :)

[Kestral]

Proof that guys can't be friends with girls.

They are always up to this.

Simply put, it is very difficult for men and women to be true friends. The sexual element, whether directly or indirectly, is always there. However it is possible...

I have two criteria if a girl wants to be my friend, my REAL friend.

She's either:
1. Hooking up with me (we're f-buddies, in a relationship, etc...)
or
2. Because she cannot hook up with me for some reason (for example... HAS A BOYFRIEND), she has to introduce me to girls that I can hook up with.

#2 is vitally important to me. Why? Look at it from a girl's perspective, when she meets a guy she considers "high quality", she will want him, but if she already has a guy, then she will want to introduce him to her female friends. So when a girl you know that is not hooking up with you is introducing you to girls, or helping you meet girls, then she is affirming that she recognizes your value as a man. When she doesn't, then she's disaffirming it. Girls naturally do this, you don't even have to tell them (even though I do, I'm a very straightforward guy), when they meet cool guys, they just want to introduce them to their girl friends because it raises their status in their social circle.

I only allow girls that follow the above two conditions into my life.

Now, as for the boyfriend thing, I'll save that for later today, super busy day of work ahead of me right now, will have some time to relax and write something later tonight. Personally I believe in abundance and I like meeting women who are free and clear, that's just me personally because I feel confident that I can meet lots of girls that if one is not available, that's cool, as long as she follows rule #2, we're true friends, I'll be there for her and she's introducing me to lots of other girls. It's a beautiful thing.

[quadkings]

easy.... jus get caught or be seen with the girl

[kennyt18]

Simply put, it is very difficult for men and women to be true friends. The sexual element, whether directly or indirectly, is always there. However it is possible...

I have two criteria if a girl wants to be my friend, my REAL friend.

She's either:
1. Hooking up with me (we're f-buddies, in a relationship, etc...)
or
2. Because she cannot hook up with me for some reason (for example... HAS A BOYFRIEND), she has to introduce me to girls that I can hook up with.

#2 is vitally important to me. Why? Look at it from a girl's perspective, when she meets a guy she considers "high quality", she will want him, but if she already has a guy, then she will want to introduce him to her female friends. So when a girl you know that is not hooking up with you is introducing you to girls, or helping you meet girls, then she is affirming that she recognizes your value as a man. When she doesn't, then she's disaffirming it. Girls naturally do this, you don't even have to tell them (even though I do, I'm a very straightforward guy), when they meet cool guys, they just want to introduce them to their girl friends because it raises their status in their social circle.

I only allow girls that follow the above two conditions into my life.

Now, as for the boyfriend thing, I'll save that for later today, super busy day of work ahead of me right now, will have some time to relax and write something later tonight. Personally I believe in abundance and I like meeting women who are free and clear, that's just me personally because I feel confident that I can meet lots of girls that if one is not available, that's cool, as long as she follows rule #2, we're true friends, I'll be there for her and she's introducing me to lots of other girls. It's a beautiful thing.

+1..Play on, Playa...

and to the OP: You should say this to her.

"If things don't work out between you and pipsqueak (refering to her current bf), I just want to let you know that I'll be there to score you on the rebound." - Zap Branigan

[najibs]

Proof that guys can't be friends with girls.

They are always up to this.

It's true. Those who disagree are in denial.

[cmge]

if she liked u that much she could of broken up with her bf now... otherwise dont be a douche and be a home wrecker... think of it this way would u like it done to u, if the situation was reversed?

[Kestral]

It's true. Those who disagree are in denial.
For sure. Even more difficult to accept is that women can't be friends with other women. Because they're all competing for the same thing, attention.

Guys may compete over a specific girl, that's one thing, but there's only one girl, hence there's competition. They're not in constant competition because they're not competing for EVERY and ANY girl. Which is why I can trust my guy buddies and they can trust me. I don't steal friends' girlfriends and in fact, sometimes go out of my way to avoid being alone with their girl. (And yes, I have had friends' ex-girlfriends tell me after the fact that they had a crush on me, in fact this recently happened)

However, girls are competing because having just one guy's attention is not enough, they want to be the complete and utter center of attention. So they're competing for any and all attention, all the time. 24/7 it's competition time. So women can never trust other women since they're constantly in competition.

And it plays out especially in a club situation.

For a guy, a GREAT NIGHT out is when he pulls, gets laid. YEAAAAAAH!!

For a girl, a GREAT NIGHT is, "Every guy had their eye on me, they all wanted to talk to me and get my number, I was wearing this hot pink dress and matching pumps and all the guys were staring!"

Notice the difference? That's a major difference between guys and girls. Guys who are celebs get attention when they lay hot girls, but the laying is the goal. Girls who are celebs do stupid stuff for just one thing, the attention (thinking about that Paris Hilton thread with her dog). Remember this and you pretty much explain any and every weird behaviour in a girl, whether its Britney Spears shaving her head and running around without panties on with Paris Hilton, or the girl next door walking around in a bikini top and complaining, "Why do guys keep staring at me? Why can't they just leave me alone?" Simply put, attention.

[stealth]

I personally think you are wasting your time and possibly dignity on this one. Its one of those things you will laugh about 10 yrs from now ...

"...and then there was the time that I tried to break apart a couple that had been dating for 2 yrs without really knowing the girl that well, or how solid or not their relationship was...It seemed like a good idea at the time"

Seriously, there lots of girls out there, get one of your own. Even if you somehow maaged to steal this one away (which I doubt you are smooth enough to do, b/c guys like that dont solicit advice from fellow geeks in a deals forum, they just do it), you'd have a new girlfriend with tons of baggage from her previous relationship that she would use to help get over. You'd become the "transitional boyfriend" for a couple months then she'd move on.

As to your first line about "I can be much better for her than him"...Is anyone really buying it? All he (OP) cares about is self interest. The Op has never alluded to anything to indicate that the current boyfriend is mistreating her. I bet he's a nice guy.

[jdmkidd]

+1 for your honesty but you get no respect from me why would you want to be the rebound? step your game up.

[yao416]

wow are u a kid? so childish. GROW UP

He's probably older then you

Bang her. Videotape it. Put it on Youtube.

:cheesygri

[thelefteyeguy]

if you watch enough teen movies you'll know the jock/rich elite always screws up and his great looking gf and always! hooks up with the nerd at the end of the 1.5hrs

SO! don't lose hope :D


....lose all hope if the variables in your real life scenario are different :|

ie....the other guy is a nerd too

[Yaowsers]

It's open season. She's not married so it's fair game. Go for it. The worst that can happen is she won't be interested. Make sure you can fight because you might get jumped.

[KorruptioN]

if you think you can love her better, why are you contemplating making her sad already? god damn

Well played.

[Madchester]

I'm going to disagree with most of you. If they're not married, IMO it's fair game. If anything, you owe it to your fellow man to test it to see how strong this relationship truly is before he takes the plunge.



A certain quote from Undeclared popped into my mind:

"Women are fair game... sometimes even after marriage."

[YnD]

Get a black friend to make it look like hes hitting on that girl...then when her bf finds out...sh1t will go down...... and you take advantage...

[sexpuppet6000]

It's true. Those who disagree are in denial.

http://www.laddertheory.com/

[ricoboxing]

please post a pic of her so we can see if all this effort is even worth it!

[Colts]

loooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooool

[Madchester]

http://www.laddertheory.com/

This is enlightening and hilarious at the same time. "The Abyss"! lol.

[tet8suo]

Would be interesting if the other bf is a RFDer and reading this thread:cheesygri
Watch out!

[Rocketo]

It's open season. She's not married so it's fair game. Go for it. The worst that can happen is she won't be interested. Make sure you can fight because you might get jumped.

man marriage or not that doesn't stop most sleeze balls these days...they just like pursuing something that's not theirs...thrill of chase

[bokep]

to op: don't be playing around with fire

boyfriend gets pissed off, boyfriend gets a few of his friends to beat you up with baseball bats, you go to hospital

then you post here asking about how to sue someone

[sonyminidiscman]

talking is the way to a girl's heart..... talk with her..... chat with her..... flirt a little....... and when things go bad btn her and the bf.......... add some gasoline to the fire........ done. she's yours.

[Spidey]

Well theres this girl I am interested in for awhile now and I think shes interested in me as well. The problem is she has a boyfriend for more than 3 years and it was her first. Considering the fact that we both fairly young (20 yrs old), shes decent looking, how likely is the relationship will last? I have seen too many relationships breaking apart after 2-3yrs so I assume eventually relationship will fall apart.

I know its pretty evil to attempt to break up someone's relationship but i believe i can make her happy more than he can. So what are some of the proper ways/methods/techniques to get her to leave him?

I hope he finds out and kicks the crap out of you. Purposely breaking up a relationship for your benefit.

Oh Ya, your a lot better for her than he is. What an ass :mad:

[sonyminidiscman]

if she liked u that much she could of broken up with her bf now... otherwise dont be a douche and be a home wrecker... think of it this way would u like it done to u, if the situation was reversed?

I've had it done to me..... before I did anything to anybody..... nice guy finish last... gotta realize that it can happen, if u like the girl and she ain't married, go get her... unless that guy is your friend, then its hands off

[nfnx]

True. I've heard that 100% of them end either in breakup or death.



nuh uh.. didnt you guys see the notebook? they death'd together

[deuce]

the answer to all your questions (http://youtube.com/watch?v=mX42S4OO6aA)

[CSAgent]

Give me your phone# and address so I can meet up with you to knock some hard brick metal sense into you.

[nickia]

hahaha thanks for all the great posts..i knew it would stirr up alot of you guys...i just wanted a opinion thats all..u guys seriously need to relax a little.

Yea i know its a kind of ******* move. If I were the bf..i would be pissed however my situation applies if only the girl is interested in another person and trust me i know. In situations like these..i think its ok to test how loyal or much she loves her current bf..if it wont happen now..it will eventually happen to another dude while they're married.

hahaha some of u guys need to chill out..its an open forum, go somewhere else if your offended.


dude she's not into you. Some girls like to flirt a lot with guy but some guys read it differently and think girls are interested. There's a guy talked to my gf a lot and my gf talked to her alot, he thought he had a chance but was turned down by my gf. Then my gf proceeded to go out with me eventhough I thought they were something going on between them.

[funkyfr3sh_]

hahaha thanks for all the great posts..i knew it would stirr up alot of you guys...i just wanted a opinion thats all..u guys seriously need to relax a little.

Yea i know its a kind of ******* move. If I were the bf..i would be pissed however my situation applies if only the girl is interested in another person and trust me i know. In situations like these..i think its ok to test how loyal or much she loves her current bf..if it wont happen now..it will eventually happen to another dude while they're married.

hahaha some of u guys need to chill out..its an open forum, go somewhere else if your offended.

Exactly, you were looking for an opinion and that is exactly what you got out of this forum even if most people didn't agree with you.

As I said before, she wouldn't be with someone else if she wanted to be with you. Sure, she may sometimes ACT like she likes you but in the end she's not your girl. You should really invest in "He's just not that into you" - most of that stuff will apply to both sexes.

[mochachicka]

That sounds pretty low OP, I can't believe someone would even try to comtemplate something like this. Sounds like a scheme from a soap opera...

[omagedon]

It's true. Those who disagree are in denial.

Unless they are gay, I know of a gay friend who has a lot of girl friends LOL.

[Cyber6]

I know its pretty evil to attempt to break up someone's relationship but i believe i can make her happy more than he can. So what are some of the proper ways/methods/techniques to get her to leave him?

Easy answer.... sleep with him. I bet $100 that she will certainly leave the cheating bastard. :razz:


C.

[Kestral]

Ok, I promised I'd write something about this and here's my take on it...

In any relationship, a woman enters it because it fulfills her emotional needs. Many people argue what they are, I have my own personal list of what I consider are a woman's emotional needs. Some of them include:

- Protection and Safety (99% of the reason why bouncers get laid)
- High quality in some way (ie. rich, good-looking, smart, wears hip clothes, knows lots of cool people - yes, this is ONLY ONE emotional need, not the whole thing)
- Being dominant and taking the lead (part of the reason why bad boys get laid)

I'm not going to go into more than that but if you want to know more about emotional needs, I highly recommend this book, I don't know why I'm even talking about it because all I'm doing is creating competition but hell, I doubt many of you cheap asses will have the courage, committment or follow through or feel that learning to better understand women is important enough to buy it anyways so here it is:
http://www.lulu.com/content/462134

You can preview some of the pages of the book here:
http://www.lulu.com/browse/preview.php?fCID=462134

My theory is this: a girl stays with a guy because he meets most of her emotional needs. But if there are any needs that he does not fulfill, she will go outside the relationship to get them fulfilled, and usually, in a situation where it's a guy who fulfills that need, it's going to become a sexual relationship (aka she cheats). And in the case where the new guy can fulfill more emotional needs or fulfill them better than boyfriend, then it's bye bye boyfriend.

Now, a guy that can meet ALL of her emotional needs, she's going to see him as "The One". And provided the guy does a good job of continuing to do so, then the relationship is going to sustain.

So, to answer your original question, how do you get a girl who already has a boyfriend? Meet her emotional needs better than her boyfriend can. Now, HOW to do that, that's up to you to figure out.

[weedb0y]

man marriage or not that doesn't stop most sleeze balls these days...they just like pursuing something that's not theirs...thrill of chase

Exactly, thats pretty sad. How low do you have to be to go after someone's girl. Plenty of fish out there. Are you having problems attracting the fairer sex?

[Kestral]

Exactly, thats pretty sad. How low do you have to be to go after someone's girl. Plenty of fish out there. Are you having problems attracting the fairer sex?
A lot of people have problems attracting a person into their lives, men as well as women.

I applaud the OP's courage that he's trying something and asking questions, that takes courage. He put himself out there and while it's not the most optimal situation, he's at asking questions and making effort, which is a good thing.

Not everyone finds it easy.

[weedb0y]

A lot of people have problems attracting a person into their lives, men as well as women.

I applaud the OP's courage that he's trying something and asking questions, that takes courage. He put himself out there and while it's not the most optimal situation, he's at asking questions and making effort, which is a good thing.

Not everyone finds it easy.

Then he should be going after someone single? Why go after someone who is already involved? Drama. I see no justification.

[Talamasca]

A lot of people have problems attracting a person into their lives, men as well as women.

I applaud the OP's courage that he's trying something and asking questions, that takes courage. He put himself out there and while it's not the most optimal situation, he's at asking questions and making effort, which is a good thing.

Not everyone finds it easy.

Oh please. What if it was your girlfriend? And it's not courageous to post on a message board. Anyone can do that.

[anycee]

Oh please. What if it was your girlfriend? And it's not courageous to post on a message board. Anyone can do that.

If my girlfriend was willing to leave me to "upgrade" to a ....sucker like the OP then I am probably better off without her.

I see no harm in letting the girl know he wants her and is available (becoming the other branch for the monkey to grab onto). If he starts trying to turn her against her bf by abusing the bf's trust or using deception, that is another story.

OTOH, I think the OP is stupid and should find another girl.

[Kestral]

Oh please. What if it was your girlfriend? And it's not courageous to post on a message board. Anyone can do that.
lol, if my girlfriend left me for OP, then let the punishment fit the crime. He can keep her!

I do have a question though for guys out there in general, for every girl you approach, what is the percentage of girls that are single vs. have a boyfriend.

[weedb0y]

lol, if my girlfriend left me for OP, then let the punishment fit the crime. He can keep her!

I do have a question though for guys out there in general, for every girl you approach, what is the percentage of girls that are single vs. have a boyfriend.

If she has a bf/husband, just back off respectfully. Thats what I do. It all depends. Single girls also tell ugly guys that they got bfs.. lol so that varies..

[YnD]

Let that "guy" catch you and the girl playing around... except with HER on top... then that would make it completely HER fault.. since she was doing the work...

[stleesh]

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[Empz]

I dunno what you would even consider doing such a thing ... it would be asking for a serious beating. If you are even considering such an act, you better prepare yourself for retribution!

-E

[justlam_]

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[gilboman]

Then he should be going after someone single? Why go after someone who is already involved? Drama. I see no justification.

while i dont generally agree with breaking other people up. There is no right or wrong when it comes to choosing who you want to be with. if i like somebody that is in a relationship, sure i'll think harder before doing something about it then if the other person was single due to complexity issues.

but i think its stupid to not go after somebody you like just because they are not currently single. everybody has the freedom to choose including the other party (girl in this case):|

unless they are married, its all good.

but this in no way means i agree with breaking people up covertly. be up front and let the girl/guy know how you feel and let them decide. don't go making up lies or other stupid stuff. just be honest and upfront and geniuine.

[aKiu]

Yup you're single till married and it really is fair game... I definitely agree

Plus if a girl left you cause some guy came in checkin with her, then it's better she leaves you now as opposed to her leaving you after you're married to her and you've lost all your hair and grew a beerbelly and lost your sense of style and sold your exotic sports car for a family station wagon that has a never ending oil leak, has brakes that squeal, never makes it up any hills, and has billions of scartches from your wife's (who now has left you, so ex-wife) insanely reckless style of driving leaving that car with an appraised value of no more than a Big Mac sandwich.