Do you forgive and forget?

[malaco0219]

Just curious, I was wondering how do you guys deal with annoying people who always piss you off? Just wanna see how others manage their social skills.

For me personally, if it was a minor issue, i would just say forget it and move on. If it was some concerning issue, I may be pissed for a day or 2, depending on the issue, and just forgive them. However, if it's something big that makes me lose trust in them, I'll be pissed for a few days, move on, but just keep my distance from that person and beware he or she is not trust worthy anymore.

Also, what do you do when a person repeatedly goes after you?

FYI: I don't have any problems right now and I'm not looking for help, so save the flaming for those who love flaming.. LOL I'm just trying to see how other people deal with such problems. Thanks!

[Spidey]

If your married you have to :cheesygri

[ItemFinder]

Forgive, but never forget.

[malaco0219]

If your married you have to :cheesygri

Lol, you better not let your wife see that avatar. Would she be pissed if she saw it? :lol:

[Spidey]

Lol, you better not let your wife see that avatar. Would she be pissed if she saw it? :lol:

She wouldnt care. You should see my desktop backgrounds :cheesygri

Its my first non-spidey avatar in 6 years

[malaco0219]

She wouldnt care. You should see my desktop backgrounds :cheesygri

Its my first non-spidey avatar in 6 years

:twisted:

Boy you seem happy
:twisted:

[Spidey]

:twisted:

Boy you seem happy
:twisted:

I am. I just got back from the dentist, no cavities :cheesygri

[hooch]

Forgive, but never forget.

+1. And forgiving becomes much harder the next time, depending on the violation. Sometimes, I get to the point where I don't even consider forgiving.

[ItemFinder]

If you don't forgive, you will hold a grudge. It will affect you. You don't have to forget about what wrong was committed, but you should learn to let it go.

[malaco0219]

If you don't forgive, you will hold a grudge. It will affect you. You don't have to forget about what wrong was committed, but you should learn to let it go.

+1. And forgiving becomes much harder the next time, depending on the violation. Sometimes, I get to the point where I don't even consider forgiving.


+1

Its so much harder to forgive as times go by with the violation becoming larger and larger. That happened to me once, I told the guy blunt in the face, and doesn't get it. I wonder how those people get along with other people

[hooch]

I don't mind holding a grudge sometimes. I think that there are times when hate, dislike, disgust is a good thing. :)

I've been betrayed sometimes, in such a way that an I'm sorry just won't do. I've been betrayed, sometimes, and I've forgiven them, and they do it again. In those cases, an I'm sorry will definately not do. It's not like I'll be out for their blood, but I'll not want to have anything to do with them, nor will I help them.

[skyblue12]

i forgive my gf all the time.. i don't know why i do it sometimes but i just do.. i'm a forgiving person :lol: i can never stay mad at somebody for a long time. and most of the time i forget what she did to me, except for several occasions, where i kind of forget over time but sometimes i remember it again.

[hooch]

i forgive my gf all the time.. i don't know why i do it sometimes but i just do.. i'm a forgiving person :lol: i can never stay mad at somebody for a long time. and most of the time i forget what she did to me, except for several occasions, where i kind of forget over time but sometimes i remember it again.

Wow. She must be good! :cheesygri

I hope you don't come across a situation to test your forgiving soul. Enjoy it while it lasts!

[hagbard]

I'm old, I forget. What was the question again? :confused:

[skyblue12]

Wow. She must be good! :cheesygri

I hope you don't come across a situation to test your forgiving soul. Enjoy it while it lasts!

haha i think there have been several times where.. i've had to question myself about forgiving her.

[malaco0219]

I don't mind holding a grudge sometimes. I think that there are times when hate, dislike, disgust is a good thing. :)

I've been betrayed sometimes, in such a way that an I'm sorry just won't do. I've been betrayed, sometimes, and I've forgiven them, and they do it again. In those cases, an I'm sorry will definately not do. It's not like I'll be out for their blood, but I'll not want to have anything to do with them, nor will I help them.

Can't agree with you more, very well worded. Exactly the way I feel.

[boyoflondon]

NEVER forget!

[BobW]

Life's too short to carry a grudge around all the time... forgive, forget and then remember with a small smile when karma catches up to somebody who truly deserves it...

[Bortman]

Forgive, but never forget.

Me too.

[hooch]

In the immortal words of Homer Simpson:

"Yes, honey...Just squeeze your rage up into a bitter little ball and release it at an appropriate time, like that day I hit the referee with the whiskey bottle."

[EH100501AC]

I can forgive but don't really "forget".

[malaco0219]

Life's too short to carry a grudge around all the time... forgive, forget and then remember with a small smile when karma catches up to somebody who truly deserves it...

I don't know about you guys, but I've never seen Karma catching up to the people who done wrong to me, or perhaps I missed it i don't know.

Thats life.

And i agree with you guys. Forgive, but not forget. I always keep in my mind that those people are not trust worth.

[perplexed_one]

repost

depends on the wrong done to me. trivial things ill forgive/forget. heavier things not so certain

[kitbor]

Forgive, but why forget? We must learn from the experience in the past. Only by remembering would allow you to avoid it to be repeated in the future.

[cmge]

forgive sure.. forget not a chance in hell... i guess it depends on what other person did and its severity

[Fox2k]

Forgive, but never forget.

:arrowu: :arrowu:

[Nikita]

I don't mind holding a grudge sometimes. I think that there are times when hate, dislike, disgust is a good thing. :)

I've been betrayed sometimes, in such a way that an I'm sorry just won't do. I've been betrayed, sometimes, and I've forgiven them, and they do it again. In those cases, an I'm sorry will definately not do. It's not like I'll be out for their blood, but I'll not want to have anything to do with them, nor will I help them.

I kinda feel the same way, except if you diss a family member, the threshold on forgiveness goes wayyyy up.


If you don't forgive, you will hold a grudge. It will affect you. You don't have to forget about what wrong was committed, but you should learn to let it go.


Pick your battles, they're not all worth fighting. When you hang on to anger, you're the ONLY one affected. The dick that betrayed you is off not even thinking about it, let alone being bothered by it. Only you.
So you're in a s*h*x*x*x*y mood and he's off somewhere prolly having a good time. Pick your battles..;)

[urameatball]

I forget, therefore I automatically forgive.

[malaco0219]

Pick your battles, they're not all worth fighting. When you hang on to anger, you're the ONLY one affected. The dick that betrayed you is off not even thinking about it, let alone being bothered by it. Only you.
So you're in a s*h*x*x*x*y mood and he's off somewhere prolly having a good time. Pick your battles..;)

Haha, very well said. It took me a while to learn that, but I learned it in the end =]

[ShadowVlican]

never had such a situation like these.....

..... or maybe i just forgot ;)

[hooch]

I kinda feel the same way, except if you diss a family member, the threshold on forgiveness goes wayyyy up.


Agreed. Forgiveness threshold does kind of go up with family members and long standing friends. But there are limits even then, at least for me. I can't let anyone think that they can get away with anything with me. ;)

I guess what I define as the difference between forgiving and forgetting is a matter of consequences. Some things for me can break a relationship (family, friendship, intimate, etc) and that's what I mean by not forgiving. It comes to a point where an offense, or repeated offenses must have consequences. While I'm not one to really punish people, I'll at least extricate myself from things and let them go. Sometimes, I see maintaining a relationship with them not worth it, and keeping that anger for them as being worth it.

[gman]

I probably don't forgive by default but I can forget. Since I can forget, it is more or less automatically forgive. When somebody pissed me off, it is a suffering already. Keep on remembering it is to extend my own suffering. It is not a good deal and kind of stupid.

[mrlooneytoon]

Always forgive and forget.
Why bother dwelling on past mishaps? After all we are just human and no that isn't a cliche.
But if bad things keep happening, then it gets much harder to forgive or forget.

[masterhapposai]

Always forgive and forget.
Why bother dwelling on past mishaps? After all we are just human and no that isn't a cliche.
But if bad things keep happening, then it gets much harder to forgive or forget.

sure, after cutting them off so they can't do it again, once they've done it a few times already

[curtis]

Forgive AND forget? Easily, all the time.

But if you pass a certain threshold, I won't forgive, forget, or let it end just like that.

[malaco0219]

Always forgive and forget.
Why bother dwelling on past mishaps? After all we are just human and no that isn't a cliche.
But if bad things keep happening, then it gets much harder to forgive or forget.

Like many others have said, sometimes not forgetting helps you and protects you from getting hurt again

[TheRaySta]

As a matter of fact, I have this one friend that pisses me off constantly and when I tell him straight up, he doesn't think there is anything wrong with it. Not only does he constantly say things that are stupid and makes no sense, he would try to make me look like a fool in public. However, when no one is around he starts to behave normal. Now I don't want anyone telling me that I should go find new friends because he is just one person and I can just ignore him whenever I want. He is the kind of person that always thinks they are right, they have absolutely no logic and common sense, and overall they are cocky but when they get the chance to prove it they back down.

It doesn't really matter to me though, he can stick around but I know he won't get far in life with the attitude and personality of his.