Heatware left for buyer, but did not return favor..

[the one]

Recently (about a week ago) completed a transaction where I sold an item to someone on RFD - and filled in a positive evaluation for the buyer right after and have not heard from since.. I requested Heat be added for me, even sent the link.. TWICE since.. read receipts show the user has read them but I guess chooses not to do anything with it..

Now I think its only fair - heat for heat..

:confused:

What should I do.. this has happened to me before, maybe I'll let the other party initiate heat feedback first?

Sucks that people on here are like this.. :mad:

[lil_c09]

Suck it up.

No one is obligated to live another heat, although it is helpful for each if it is left.

Maybe he wasn't satisfied? Who knows. Not something to loose sleep over tho.

[yoshim]

Feedback is completely optional. If you are a good seller your buyer will have no problem returning your feedback after a friendly reminder.

Only two of my buyers did not return heatware, and i found out because they have not used their AE gift cards for whatever reason (their cards still have balance). I should have sent them instructions on how to use them after i found out from another buyer, too bad for me.

[bubble.tea]

yep. No rules about it. Some people just don't 'get it'.

If heatware is important to you., you may want to mention it before the trade so as not to be disappointed in the end. That is...you'd KNOW you weren't getting any from the get go. Of course., I've read of people agreeing to give some., then don't...eventhough it's a positive trade lol.

[Amourek]

If you really want it, just keep requesting feedback. Eventually he'll do it just to get you off his back. :)

[GuiltySpark]

With all due respect to the O.P, This bothered you SO MUCH you had to put a post in the "Scammers & Warnings"??!
I understand the annoyance, I've expressed my need for Heatware before a transaction took place, filled out a Heatware only to have no response Countless times. Unless they have a healthy amount on heatware ratings I expect it and am rarely dissapointed.

This is Naval lint on the radar of anyone here. Suck it up.

[LeeBoA]

Lollll Good Topic

[the one]

With all due respect to the O.P, This bothered you SO MUCH you had to put a post in the "Scammers & Warnings"??!

Yes, I did.

It goes both ways - he told me his profile at the end of the transaction - so I said fine no problems, I'll add Heat, and you do the same, which, up to today he hasn't. Reminded him twice, already, politely.

It comes down to people 'claiming' how many trades they've done I guess is what gets me, +1 for him, +0 for me - makes me look like I've done less trades, right?

Over time it adds up and establishes some sort of trading rep, or at least thats the general idea - I'm not a big time trader here, from time to time I like to do a little house cleaning.

I think from now on I'll only post Heat once its posted to mine.

[dre145]

heatware is a joke, it doesnt mean anything to me because its so easy for people to make fake accounts... cant believe u got so worked up over a little number :lol:

[ipoptags]

Sticky: New Scammers and Warning Forum Rules - This thread is not for petty complaints

[TenzoR]

I think from now on I'll only post Heat once its posted to mine.

so if the next trader/buyer thinks the same way as you do .... who's going to give in first :lol: :lol: :lol:

[CobraYu]

so if the next trader/buyer thinks the same way as you do .... who's going to give in first :lol: :lol: :lol:

Then we'll turn into a heat-less society :razz:

[hamant]

man... stop wasting banwidth

[FlintBlade]

man... stop wasting banwidth

That statement is a waste of bandwidth... and so is this one.. omg!!! ahh!!

[jerrytoyer]

i would agree

[angy]

lol i havent had a heatware posted on my deals in years but i still get it done.

[bobbings]

what about getting a feedback on rfd but the person accidentally put neutral instead of positive? the seller acknowledges and has contacted the mods but i still have a neutral feedback, i want my positive one! the mods doesn't seem to be responding to the guy about changing my feedback rating...

[mcg]

what about getting a feedback on rfd but the person accidentally put neutral instead of positive? the seller acknowledges and has contacted the mods but i still have a neutral feedback, i want my positive one! the mods doesn't seem to be responding to the guy about changing my feedback rating...

The mods over at HEAT take a while to respond... I requested a username change on my heat account and it took a couple of weeks for them to get to it.

[TruE SkiLLS]

seller should never leave feed first.

[TheDemon666]

Suck it up.

No one is obligated to live another heat, although it is helpful for each if it is left.

Maybe he wasn't satisfied? Who knows. Not something to loose sleep over tho.

I agree, while its nice that members should leave a heat, if they don't then its up to them. Just go on with your life. its more important.

[TenzoR]

seller should never leave feed first.

the same way that a buyer should never leave feed first

The way I see it, in a normal situation, the seller should leave a feed back first because the first part of the transaction is complete (e.g. the seller got paid for the item). The buyer will then leave a feed back after he/she is satisfy with the item.

Now this changes when a seller ships first, in that case the buyer should provide feed back since the first part of the transaction is completed. After the seller receive the payment a feedback should be left for the buyer.

However, most people are selfish and scared/afraid that people will tarnish their precious feedback so they want to make sure they have the last leverage in case something goes wrong.

[van]

Over time it adds up and establishes some sort of trading rep, or at least thats the general idea - I'm not a big time trader here, from time to time I like to do a little house cleaning.

It happens, you just need to learn to get over it. And as already mensioned, it's optional, and the way I see it, no feedback is better then neutral or negative feedback. It could be possible that the other person wasn't satisfied about something, and instead of ruining your heat, decided not to post any feedback at all.

Out of hundreds of transactions that I've done locally and out of town throughout the years, only a very small fraction of those people decided to leave return feedback. What I do now is request them to leave me feedback before giving return feedback.

[ultimate_rugal]

man... stop wasting banwidth

+1. start something new.

[tapanpatel88]

That statement is a waste of bandwidth... and so is this one.. omg!!! ahh!!

lmao...:razz: OOPS i just used about 1kb of bandwidth !!! LOL

[Gee]

seller should never leave feed first.

I always leave feedback first if I am the seller. After all, I was paid and if the transaction went smoothly, why delay the feedback?

If the buyer does not reciprociate, then that is his or her choice. Maybe they were not satisified 100%, but I am not at fault. I always deliver my end of the deal.

I rather have no feedback, than negative feedback over something that I was not at fault.


Now this changes when a seller ships first, in that case the buyer should provide feed back since the first part of the transaction is completed. After the seller receive the payment a feedback should be left for the buyer.

However, most people are selfish and scared/afraid that people will tarnish their precious feedback so they want to make sure they have the last leverage in case something goes wrong.


Buyer should only provide feedback after item has been received and inspected to their satisfaction. In all cases.

Bottom line. Leave feedback once you are satisified. If the other party does not return in kind. No big deal, move on. There are plenty of other people to deal with.

I have always left feedback when I am satisified and if they don't leave me any, well, no big deal. I have enough and that should speak for itself.

Most important. DON'T BE AFRAID TO LEAVE NEGATIVE FEEDBACK IF YOU FEEL YOU HAVE BEEN WRONGED.

[sweetladdy]

i dun think this is considered as scam..:|