How tolerant should you be of loud music in apartment

[mtharvey]

I find music coming from another apartment really irritating. Should I call police or apartment manager if noise continues? One guy only makes noise for few hour on friday so i can handle that but new guy moved in upstairs and his music is very loud.

[aquariaguy]

Call management on him. Don't bother "talking" to them. Most people will just spite you and do things on purpose. Ignore all that "go talk to him" because most people are not considerate to begin with. It's a dog eat dog world. Call management.

[hagbard]

:arrowu: What he said. If the guys is already being a jerk, don't think he's going to be reasonable because you ask him to cut the noise. I've had years of experience with this, go to the landlord first.

[Icedawn]

a lot of times people just don't realize they're being loud... don't overreact and spoil things by doing teh adult equivalent of "running to mommy".

Just go talk to the guy rationally. Tell him the building sucks and that you hear his music all the time and personally, in all likelihood, he'll be like "crap, sorry guy, didn't realize". And even if he's a jerk, you could always negotiate a bit.... try to convince him to turn up his music when you're out of your apartment and turn it down when you're back.... perhaps he has a different work schedule then you.

There's just a lot of better ways to resolve disputes rather than going to a 3rd parties.. I would say save it as a last resort.

[theavonlady]

Do you have security or anything in your building?
if he's playing it at this time of the night, go report it to security. I know in my building your not allowed to play disturbingly loud music/use loud tools or anything after 10:30pm. It's annoying to hear loud @ss music at like 1am when your trying to sleep. Then again my buildings walls are like paper thin and i can hear my neighbours baby cry at 2:30 am EVERY morning!!


Also, to the above poster, you dont know how this person would react to someone telling them to turn down their music. If would be perfect if the tenant did turn down his music, but what if this guy is a prick and turns it up, or does something worse. The apartment above mine had a whole bunch of young people renting it out, and they were peeing off of theyre balcony and it would come down to mine (1st floor) and we asked them to stop, they turned around continued to do it, as well as add throwing garbage down and many other things. We got security involved, a couple incidents later they got kicked out or left, but i think kicked out!

Good Luck OP

[Icedawn]

I never said never go to security or management office... I just don't think its an appropriate first step?

Maybe I'm to idealistic about people... I just find that if you're reasonable with people, normally they're nice back. I mean, as long as you don't expect absolute silence from adjoining apartments and let them KNOW that you don't expect that, usually people will take proactive steps to avoid further conflict...

[mtharvey]

I put a note on the door saying music too loud. Thanks for the feedback.

[webdoctors]

are you talking about me?

if u r, plz leave a note on my door or lemme know, i never know if i;m bothering anyone or not, so...i just leave it playing.

dont bother calling da super or landlord, i'll turn it down, honest.

[islandboy_007]

a lot of times people just don't realize they're being loud... don't overreact and spoil things by doing teh adult equivalent of "running to mommy".

Just go talk to the guy rationally. Tell him the building sucks and that you hear his music all the time and personally, in all likelihood, he'll be like "crap, sorry guy, didn't realize". And even if he's a jerk, you could always negotiate a bit.... try to convince him to turn up his music when you're out of your apartment and turn it down when you're back.... perhaps he has a different work schedule then you.

There's just a lot of better ways to resolve disputes rather than going to a 3rd parties.. I would say save it as a last resort.


Exactly what i did. It was a bunch of kids that would start playing music at 3a.m.!! I went down there with the intent to be resonable, didnt know who i was dealing with. Once i saw that it was a 20 year old kid, i was polite but did intimidate him. You dont want to be too polite and make them think your a push over. Never had a prob since. Saw the kid walking one day, i picked him up and gave him a ride. Didnt want him to think i was a total prick :razz:

[felix]

Your building security should be able to do something about it. Especially since it's after hours. I know for my building they would at least knock on the door and talk to the resident. I'm not sure under what conditions would the police need to be called but from what I heard they do call them if the neighbour doesn't behave after repeated warnings.

[AloneInACrowd]

I'd hit security and such, not even bother talking to him. If he knows who you are he'll be spiteful if you eventually do get security involved. I'd get security or the management to talk to him, because they'll just say "We've had some complaints" and not name any names.

[gordholio]

Call management on him. Don't bother "talking" to them. Most people will just spite you and do things on purpose. Ignore all that "go talk to him" because most people are not considerate to begin with. It's a dog eat dog world. Call management.
I think you should do things in a certain order.
1. Ask the person to turn the music down.
2. If the person ignores you, go to the apartment manager.
3. If nothing gets done, go to the police.

Give the person the benefit of the doubt to begin with. They may not realize that their music is loud in your apartment, while they're listening to it.
If they don't comply, then get tougher.

[CodecX81]

a lot of times people just don't realize they're being loud... don't overreact and spoil things by doing teh adult equivalent of "running to mommy".

Just go talk to the guy rationally.

screw that! STAY ANONYMOUS!

Keep in mind though, there are noise bylaws...usually its a certain amount of noise after 7pm or 9pm or sometimes 11pm.

If you talk to building management, they will send a letter of complaint to the tenant and thats is the proper steps to take. Who knows, others might've complained too and this person might be on the cusp of eviction.

[Talula]

While I agree that most people are reasonable, but Aloneinacrowd makes a good point about anonymity. If things turn ugly, you don't want him to know where you live or what you drive. I'd go with management, but you can always tell management to make it a "friendly request".

I remember when I lived in an apartment and got a newspaper, it kept getting stolen. I left a note on my door, "Please stop stealing my newspaper." It worked.

[blainehamilton]

Leaving a note on the door is the first step, just make sure you dont put your name on it. If it happens again, call the landlord, ask them not to mention your name.

I had one guy living above me that did this, management did nothing so I went downstairs and turned off the power to his suite. After the third night it stopped for a while. Eventually it started up again and I had to call the police on several occasions and make a noise complaint. After the second or third time the cops showed up and told him to turn it down he started throwing beer bottles at the cops from his third floor balcony. He never did live there after that...

This is a sign that the quality of tenants your landlord is letting live there is declining. You can let your landlord know you are not happy and will move out if it continues. This could even be considered legal means to break your lease if need be.

[aquariaguy]

I think you should do things in a certain order.
1. Ask the person to turn the music down.
2. If the person ignores you, go to the apartment manager.
3. If nothing gets done, go to the police.

Give the person the benefit of the doubt to begin with. They may not realize that their music is loud in your apartment, while they're listening to it.
If they don't comply, then get tougher.

I'd rather not give the person the benefit of the doubt.
1. If they "ignore" you, when you report them to management they know its you.
2. Prepare for trouble than.
3. Once you call the police, you will regret it because THEY KNOW who you are.
4. How do you know the guy isn't some psycho?
5. Too many people in this world are spiteful, so watch out.

What the OP did was smart. Leave an anonymous note.

[DaVibe]

You can take the necessary action all you want ... AFTER you've spoken to the person / left a note / has had a warning.

They probably have no idea.

[stevethewheel]

I've been on the receiving end of this as a kid, and on the complaining end after I became yet another old goober.

I think it's better to give a personal message. If you are not OK with going to the door and letting them know (gives you a chance to tell them stuff like if you are a shiftworker), then leaving a note is a great suggestion.

If you go straight to the management, don't think the noisemakers won't figure out who it is anyway. A lot of people don't realize how much sound penetrates the walls and floors, and some buildings are better than others. Also the noisy tenants will then engage in the endlessly fun game of 'outsmart the super', and you'll be in the crossfire.

[Avenger]

Most places have policies which result in a warning or two, then getting kicked out for complaints or noise violations caused by tenants. People may not be aware of how much noise travels. I personally would prefer if my neighbor just asked me first and informed me of the problem, and then if I neglected to listen, complain to management at that point. Put yourself in their shoes, how would you feel if you got ratted out if you were not even aware sound was travelling as much as it was? Some people just do not have the experience to know better, or might not be aware just how much sound travels.

[Calmuser]

watch the movie "Noise" for ideas :cheesygri

[st7860]

the first thing you should go is go to the building management office or landlord.

if you talk to the perp first then he/she/it will know who is complaining. That could be a risk.

[boonjaca]

If you have a balcony then get a rope and climb up when he's not home and clip all his cables to his audio equipment, that should do the job... :D

[st7860]

or call the fuzz and say you smell something very sweet wafting out of his room

[Daemar]

If the walls are paper thin, just yell out... "if i ever find out who's playing that music in the middle of the night, i'm gonna take my shotgun over there and make some music of my own."