Immoral? Wrong? Backstab?

[Alvito]

Is it wrong to date/mess around with a girl that your friend recently dumped?

I think so, but i can''t help myself. I pray neither of them see this. :cheesygri

[klipone]

think about this. everytime u kiss her u kiss him also. and everytime u do it. hes been in there. so ur thing is 'contacting' his thing. lol dude. thats nasty.

[Wiseman]

think about this. everytime u kiss her u kiss him also. and everytime u do it. hes been in there. so ur thing is 'contacting' his thing. lol dude. thats nasty.

As opposed to your 'thing' contacting a stranger's 'thing'? What's the diff?

[Alvito]

lol. i wont be kissing her... at least the lips on her face

i under stand your do it thing now, and he hasnt been there, so no worries!


:twisted:

[islandboy_007]

if he dumped her, no
if she dumped him, yes

[Alvito]

if he dumped her, no
if she dumped him, yes


what the heck, explain that, because i have it the other way around.

[NDman]

I'd just back off from that. It *may* work out in the ideal case, but situation like this has troubles written all over it.

[MizTEcK]

backstab? more like u'll get stabbed... not necessarily in the back though

[d_jedi]

what the heck, explain that, because i have it the other way around.
If he dumped her.. why do you think it would be wrong to date her? He doesn't want her, so..
Nonetheless, I say give it a few months at least before you do anything (unless you already have).. and then I'd ask him what he'd think if I went out with his ex..

[Alvito]

should i wait til she gets over him? or take advantage and be the shoulder to cry on and then earn her trust from there?

[corrupt123]

should i wait til she gets over him? or take advantage and be the shoulder to cry on and then earn her trust from there?

you'll get used.

[d_jedi]

should i wait til she gets over him? or take advantage and be the shoulder to cry on and then earn her trust from there?
Picking a girl up on the rebound usually doesn't turn out well..

[poedua]

never..." guy code " 101

[Alvito]

alright, i'll just be her friend... for now :twisted:

[nfnx]

i did taht ... lol im still dating that girl and its been 2 years.

cant say it was the best decision but it was definately worth it.


hey if its real, its real.... if they are no longer attached then a true friedn would understand.
i always looked at it this way. if i care about a girl but dont love them enough to be with them, there is no one id rather her be with than a close friend of mine who i know will take care of her. im not a selfish guy

[aznboi180]

backstab? more like u'll get stabbed... not necessarily in the back though

agreed man. not a good idea at all. but goodluck. =)

[boonjaca]

what the heck, explain that, because i have it the other way around.

My thoughts exactly.

[klai]

there's nothing wrong with that .....
no offence, but the question to ask is whether she actually wants you

[danfromwaterloo]

This has trouble spread all over it, like a thin layer of cream cheese.

You'll never know if she's boffing you to get back at your friend. Best case scenario, your friend is cool with it, and she's the love of your life. Typical case: your friend knocks you the fcuk out, and she totally screws you over.

Avoid. Its just not worth the headaches.

[asim99]

it will be weird

[asim99]

This has trouble spread all over it, like a thin layer of cream cheese.
looks like somehow needs breakfast

note to self: never post when hungry

[dmatthew]

ask your friend
he should be a good enough friend to tell you straight up what he feels

on the other hand, if he is your friend - you should already have a feel with regards to what he thinks of dating ex's in the first place. either way I dont believe in doing it because it just makes things difficult - unless your friend says it's totally okay

[Becks]

You should definitely let some time pass before you do anything. She needs time to be on her own, and your friend might even have moved on to another person. Time lessens the intensity of feeelings and bonds. But the most important reason for at least waiting awhile before jumping into anything is that we don't want you to be on the Maury Pauvich show trying to figure out if you or your friend is the daddy of her child, just in case she got pregnant around this time.

[masterhapposai]

You should definitely let some time pass before you do anything. She needs time to be on her own, and your friend might even have moved on to another person. Time lessens the intensity of feeelings and bonds. But the most important reason for at least waiting awhile before jumping into anything is that we don't want you to be on the Maury Pauvich show trying to figure out if you or your friend is the daddy of her child, just in case she got pregnant around this time.

exactly, and sign up to jerry springer while you're at it

don't you ever see an episode from trash TV? it's called trash tv for a reason, because the people have no class, and guys even sleep with their brother's wives

next thread : "My sister looks kinda hot.., should I do her?"

[Squiggles]

My best friend wasn't too happy when I started dating his Ex, but he got over it. I'd say it worked out since she and I are getting married next year.

[CodecX81]

Ah just do it.

They broke up. If shes willing to go with you, thats between you and her. Not him.

Oh.. however you might lose him as a friend, and if you begin to see each other exclusively, it might be awkward in social events that everyone is attending

......and I should bring up the point that the fact is, they broke up... and there are reasons for that, whether its partly her own psychosis, or his... thats a surprise you get to find out on your own!

[najibs]

Like someone else said, if he dumped her, then I dont think it should matter, but if she dumped, him then stay away.

If he's your friend, just tell him straight up, that you think she's hot or whatever and if he doesnt care about her anymore, chances are he'll say "ok then, you go have her."

That's what happened to me. My best friend and his GF broke up, and he moved from the country. She was hitting on me and I could have easily had her but for respect to him I didn't pull any moves. Later on when I told him she was hitting on me, he was like "Man, you missed out...you should have had her, I wouldn't have cared."

So, ask him straight up, in a jokingly manner, so you dont sound stupid in case he doesnt like the idea...

[masterhapposai]

Ah just do it.


Oh.. however you might lose him as a friend

exactly

It's only worth it if you wanted to get rid of him as a friend anyway. The Jerry Springer part comes in because the guy probably knows where you live, where you hang out, who your friends are, and worst of all knows your female friends and can really put a hurt on your reputation or come after you to fight.

Pure trailer drama.

[fuj_duong]

Even if your best friend isn't okay with it, normally they would say they are because after all they are your friend, and they wouldn't want to sound like a jerk.

The best choice would be to give it some time.

Being the shoulder for her to cry on doesn't normally work out though because the scenarios have all already been posted.

A, You get used.
B, You end up being friends with her. Which isn't bad, but it might just ruin the possibility of anything more
C, She gets together with you to get back at him. See A.
D, She still has feelings for him...See C.

or...E1, she becomes the love of your life, at which point if she doesn't feel the same way about you, it'll hurt.

E2. E1, but that she does feel the same way. It'll still be awkward when you guys hang out.

My advice: Leave it be. You can still walk away just fine. There's a lot of things that could go wrong here.

[masterhapposai]

Even if your best friend isn't okay with it, normally they would say they are because after all they are your friend, and they wouldn't want to sound like a jerk.

The best choice would be to give it some time.

Being the shoulder for her to cry on doesn't normally work out though because the scenarios have all already been posted.

A, You get used.
B, You end up being friends with her. Which isn't bad, but it might just ruin the possibility of anything more
C, She gets together with you to get back at him. See A.
D, She still has feelings for him...See C.

or...E1, she becomes the love of your life, at which point if she doesn't feel the same way about you, it'll hurt.

E2. E1, but that she does feel the same way. It'll still be awkward when you guys hang out.

My advice: Leave it be. You can still walk away just fine. There's a lot of things that could go wrong here.


E) She bangs you, dumps/cheats on you, then bangs your friend and gets together with him and they spit on you :lol:

[nubbie]

Is it wrong to date/mess around with a girl that your friend recently dumped?

I think so, but i can''t help myself. I pray neither of them see this. :cheesygri
Bwahaha! The funniest thing I have read all day, thanks.

[Audiogenic]

It's not your fault she is on the rebound so work up on it cheif.

[Alvito]

Things are looking good. We spent last night together. I can see me and her becoming very close friends. It may not have worked out as well as i wanted it too, but one good girlfriend, leads to you meeting all her friends, and of course she'll put in a good word. :D

Anyway, this same friend dated one of my ex's. It was a while ago, but same thing. This girl is great, shes awesome to be around my friend dumped her because hes got his eye on another girl.

In my opinion hes a fool.

Thanks for all the advice guys, I was weak when i posted this, and I regretted almost right away. I'm glad that one guy got a good laugh lol.

To all the guys who said go for it, you are ALPHA, and should be damn proud of it! :D

REZPECT!

[Ziggy007]

Poe is right, guy code states you can't do it.

I have a friend who dated a girl back in grade 9 for a couple months. It wasn't anything serious at all, the normal high school junk. Anyway they broke up and she has always flirted with me since then, and she is a very very good looking, but I just tell her no every time.

That is the way it works unfortunately, you gotta go find your own girls, not your friends scraps.