What do you do with old love letters and cards from your ex? [Archive]

chatbox

Dec 22nd, 2004, 08:23 PM

north77

Dec 22nd, 2004, 08:28 PM

What do you have to prove?
Why do you feel the need to prove yourself?
Who do you have to prove 'whataver you have to prove' to?

Hmmmmmm? :cheesygri
*tents fingers in shrink pose*

Re; Love Letters (in the sand)
Scrapbook 'em,
toss 'em,
or burn 'em.

Carnage

Dec 22nd, 2004, 08:30 PM

Publish them on RFD. ;)

north77

Dec 22nd, 2004, 08:31 PM

Publish them on RFD. ;)

:lol: :lol: :lol:
Carnage, you're soooooo baaaaad!

chatbox

Dec 22nd, 2004, 08:31 PM

Ok, maybe prove was the wrong word.

It's good memories though...I was loved.

dashit

Dec 22nd, 2004, 08:32 PM

I just threw out a whole bunch from basement cleaning. Most of them talked about indecent stuff .....dont want the 'rents to find one day :cry:

Carnage

Dec 22nd, 2004, 08:34 PM

Well you obviously have some sentimental value in them.

So keep them. You'll only regret it later if you get rid of them.

You'll probably be happy whenever you're in one of those nostolgic moods and start looking through past stuff.

felixdd

Dec 22nd, 2004, 08:36 PM

Well, I'm now doing my packing.
5 Years ago, I packed them with me from Birmingham to Manchester.
2 Years ago, I packed them with me from Manchester to here (Toronto).
Now, I'm thinking if I should pack them with me from here to Hong Kong.

They're the only things that I have that prove the past existed.

No man...keep them. In true RFD spirit...they can be reused :razz:

But seriously? Chuck'em. They're holding you back...leashing you to a past that holds you from moving forward while the rest of the world flies forward. If you do keep them, keep them for the sake of learning from the past, not from the sake of living in it (although reuseability is a nice bonus ;) )

Driftwood

Dec 22nd, 2004, 08:45 PM

Burn them. How are you supposed to move on if you're stuck in the past?

Gee

Dec 22nd, 2004, 08:50 PM

Those that dwell in the past cannot live in the future.

Get rid of them. When you get into another relationship, I doubt your new significant other will want them around.

Memories are just that. Memories. There shouldn't be any need to by reminded by letters.

Chances are you never go through them. Since most of your free time is spent doing other things.

Ojam

Dec 22nd, 2004, 08:54 PM

Chatbox, no offence to you, or any female members on the board, but your worse than a chick. ;)

cmge

Dec 22nd, 2004, 09:01 PM

i have my old love letters somewhere in storage... for the sole purpose of re-using the poems ive written... a little change of words here and there and its a brand new masterpeice... ;)

Gee

Dec 22nd, 2004, 09:09 PM

i have my old love letters somewhere in storage... for the sole purpose of re-using the poems ive written... a little change of words here and there and its a brand new masterpeice... ;)

Hmm, does this mean you write love letters to yourself?

I thought the whole idea is to give the love letter to someone else?

Wouldn't it be easier to store them electronically?

webdoctors

Dec 22nd, 2004, 09:10 PM

this is a good question, I still have some from 2 relationships ago....i could destroy them, but they say such good things about me, but judging by how it ended, they were all LIES :evil: LIES I tell U...

um maybe I will delete them, .....

Wildfire

Dec 22nd, 2004, 09:14 PM

i have my old love letters somewhere in storage... for the sole purpose of re-using the poems ive written... a little change of words here and there and its a brand new masterpeice... ;)
Now that's TRUE RFD spirit.... ;)
Those that dwell in the past cannot live in the future.
I can't agree anymore with that one. Well said. Personally, I just tossed them out, keeping them to look at them again, would be like opening up an old wound, why would you? Not going to make you feel any better.
I much rather enjoy the present and look forward to new relationships, than stop to think about past ones. Plus, you'll scare off anyone new you meet, no one wants to hear that you think about your ex.
Throwing out your past, is the only way, to really start anew.

champ91

Dec 22nd, 2004, 09:22 PM

memories and experience is all you need.

Yukikaze

Dec 22nd, 2004, 09:32 PM

For me...i just toss it or BURN THEM :twisted: ... It's true getting rid of the past is a good way to start a new year. :D

Defiant

Dec 22nd, 2004, 09:44 PM

I have some mementos of prior relationships lying around. Every year or two I browse through them. I think its interesting to see how you have changed and grown over the years.

However, Im VERY over all of the ex's so they dont have an emotional effect on me. In your case, I think they are just painful reminders of your past. If you are moving, then start fresh. I'd get rid of them if I were in your shoes.

fungling

Dec 22nd, 2004, 11:25 PM

scan them onto a CD and toss the originals...not sense lugging it soo far.

Degenerate

Dec 22nd, 2004, 11:29 PM

Use the paper to roll spliffs and smoke them.

MasterAvatar

Dec 22nd, 2004, 11:32 PM

Hmmm... will she pay something to get them back??

Wildfire

Dec 22nd, 2004, 11:33 PM

Hmmm... will she pay something to get them back??
not unless they are nude photos... :idea:

HighFlyer

Dec 22nd, 2004, 11:39 PM

Shred and toss.

eelfliw

Dec 22nd, 2004, 11:45 PM

Keep it and read it to your new GF or wife or kids. Tell the how good your past relationship made you feel. And demand your new GF, wife or kids make you feel the same way.

actng

Dec 23rd, 2004, 01:45 AM

Only keep them until you find your next love. Then you either throw them out or hide them very well so she'll never find them.

jory29

Dec 23rd, 2004, 02:01 AM

Only keep them until you find your next love. Then you either throw them out or hide them very well so she'll never find them.

I opt for the 'throw them out' option; I got rid of all of my letters, momentos, etc. after meeting my husband; I just felt it was something I wanted to do. The only thing I saved was when an old flame wrote in my yearbook 'You will *always* be someone very, VERY special to me' because I didn't have the heart to cross it out with pen.'

Seriously - just keep a few photos, letters etc. tucked in a box; but ONLY keep the ones that give you good memories.

Or - ask Suziecute from these boards to provide you with some letters so you can make new memories. :cheesygri [Sorry Suziecute, I couldn't resist. :razz: You two seem so sweet for each other.]

O.K., o.k., I admit it, I admit it. I just really - really wanted to see an RFD Wedding - just make sure that you register at Staples for Wedding gifts, so that we can all PM for some great gifts. I'll send you guys a card that says 'Our RFD friends went out shopping for our Wedding - and all they brought back was an OOS notice from Staples!' {Remember those stupid T-shirts from the early 80's - My parents went to Hawaii - and all the brought back for me was this stupid T-shirt.} ? Reminds me of that! :cheesygri

O.K. - I digress. Throw 'em out. Sounds like you wanted to - but needed someone to tell you so.

d_jedi

Dec 23rd, 2004, 02:04 AM

If there are any naked pictures, keep them.. and post them on the 'net :->

actng

Dec 23rd, 2004, 04:06 AM

I opt for the 'throw them out' option; I got rid of all of my letters, momentos, etc. after meeting my husband...

Wow! I always thought jory29 was a guy... oops. :o

chatbox

Dec 23rd, 2004, 04:17 AM

Or - ask Suziecute from these boards to provide you with some letters so you can make new memories. :cheesygri [Sorry Suziecute, I couldn't resist. :razz: You two seem so sweet for each other.]

Actually, I'd like to hear Suzie's suggestion as well. Where is she? I haven't seen her around as much lately. She must be doing her last minute x'mas shopping or something. I kinda miss her. :|

Webslinger

Dec 23rd, 2004, 04:25 AM

One of my ex-girlfriends openly admits she still has my old letters (I only know this because she emails me occasionaly to say she still has them, but wants me to know that she "won't use them against me"; yeah, as though writing to me mentioning that she "won't use them against me" is really reassuring . . . pfffff). I find that a bit annoying, especially since it's been close to 10 years now . . .
I had the decency to toss her stuff out the day I broke up with her. In my opinion, holding onto old love letters from exs just means you're too weak, emotionally, to move on.

fobtastic

Dec 23rd, 2004, 07:09 AM

Wait for one of them to become famous, and then <a href=../autolink/redirectpage.php?linkid=78 target=_blank>eBay</a> 'em.

danfromwaterloo

Dec 23rd, 2004, 10:32 AM

Well, I'm now doing my packing.
5 Years ago, I packed them with me from Birmingham to Manchester.
2 Years ago, I packed them with me from Manchester to here (Toronto).
Now, I'm thinking if I should pack them with me from here to Hong Kong.

They're the only things that I have that prove the past existed.

I did something similar in the past. I had pictures of an ex that I kept around. Frankly, burn them. It'll give you a sense of closure about the whole thing.

About 2-3 months now, after I break up with someone, I either give all their clothing that's at my place to charity, or I burn whatever is still around, to provide some closure.

And as for the memories...that's you're proof that the past existed.

tkl

Dec 23rd, 2004, 10:41 AM

Just shread them like I did. Only keep your current significant others' stuff, otherwise, destroy em.

jory29

Dec 23rd, 2004, 04:15 PM

Wow! I always thought jory29 was a guy... oops. :o

LMAO! :cheesygri What made you think that? My username? Or just the 'way' I talk on the boards?

CodecX81

Dec 23rd, 2004, 04:27 PM

Oh man i so wanna say keep the nekkid photos, but really...that just makes me feel weird about myself.

Aside from that. Make this a poll! lol
I vote for.. ditch them. New year starting, you are moving to a new place..new continent, you neednt prove anything, to anyone. Who cares if they existed. They left you, so therefore they should not be kept in emotional form.

But if you still have touch with them, you could ask if *they* want them for some reason.

robattoronto

Dec 23rd, 2004, 05:31 PM

Are you planning on coming back to TO/RFD then?

Well, I'm now doing my packing.
5 Years ago, I packed them with me from Birmingham to Manchester.
2 Years ago, I packed them with me from Manchester to here (Toronto).
Now, I'm thinking if I should pack them with me from here to Hong Kong.

They're the only things that I have that prove the past existed.

cmge

Dec 23rd, 2004, 06:20 PM

Hmm, does this mean you write love letters to yourself?

I thought the whole idea is to give the love letter to someone else?

Wouldn't it be easier to store them electronically?
errr no?... slight error on my part... what i meant to say was i kept a copy of the love letters i wrote my ex... is it all clear now?... just like how u CC emails... i sent my ex email and real mails... and ive kept copies of them.. and now they are in storage somewhere

i wrote my ex countless of poems heck i can probably turn it into a book..

err the idea of writing love letters to yerself is just too weird... o_O... sorry im not narcisstic...

coldWater

Dec 23rd, 2004, 06:58 PM

hehe, mail the letters back to your ex (only if they provide the postage also) :cheesygri RFD spirit :D

otherwise.........destroy

or maybe hide it somewhere you wouldn't find.......or scan them burn into a cd........... i'm sure that you will be too lazy to read from the cds again

wanted

Dec 23rd, 2004, 08:50 PM

Ok, maybe prove was the wrong word.

It's good memories though...I was loved.

Don't worry chatbox, RFD loves you. We all love each other.
PS. Post them, it's the only way we'll truly remember you.

cummer

Dec 23rd, 2004, 09:21 PM

use them to beat off.

YLSF

Dec 23rd, 2004, 10:03 PM

I did something similar in the past. I had pictures of an ex that I kept around. Frankly, burn them. It'll give you a sense of closure about the whole thing.

About 2-3 months now, after I break up with someone, I either give all their clothing that's at my place to charity, or I burn whatever is still around, to provide some closure.

And as for the memories...that's you're proof that the past existed.

Hmm.. Well, you live with your recent ex-gf no? So, did you give all her clothes away yet ;)

cmge

Dec 23rd, 2004, 10:14 PM

About 2-3 months now, after I break up with someone, I either give all their clothing that's at my place to charity, or I burn whatever is still around, to provide some closure.
or u can sell those clothes on ebay.... hehehe... im sure lots of perv would liek to pourchase soiled clothing... o_O

danfromwaterloo

Dec 24th, 2004, 12:17 PM

Hmm.. Well, you live with your recent ex-gf no? So, did you give all her clothes away yet ;)

Yup, still living with her (and let me just say that's not nearly as fun as it sounds). Once we go our seperate ways, I'll be sure and heed my own advice.

artsreview

Dec 24th, 2004, 08:35 PM

I vote for keeping the letters, but not being sentimental about them. If you can be their master and not let them master you, sure, why not?

CSR

Dec 24th, 2004, 09:21 PM

Publish them on RFD. ;)

DO it!

CSR

Dec 24th, 2004, 09:24 PM

ouch*... chatbox.. webslinger is refering to u

One of my ex-girlfriends openly admits she still has my old letters (I only know this because she emails me occasionaly to say she still has them, but wants me to know that she "won't use them against me"; yeah, as though writing to me mentioning that she "won't use them against me" is really reassuring . . . pfffff). I find that a bit annoying, especially since it's been close to 10 years now . . .
I had the decency to toss her stuff out the day I broke up with her. In my opinion, holding onto old love letters from exs just means you're too weak, emotionally, to move on.